Waking Up to Narcissism

Waking Up to Narcissism


Unmasking Family Roles in a Narcissistic/Emotionally Immature Household

January 31, 2024

Tony Overbay, LMFT, dives into the hidden dynamics and assigned roles within dysfunctional and narcissistic family systems. The podcast outlines the roles of the Enabler, the Hero, the Scapegoat, the Lost Child, and the Mascot, all of whom are developed as coping mechanisms to manage family stress and chaos. Each role is reviewed in depth, including the implications for the individual's development, identity, and potential for later life challenges and relationships. The episode also emphasizes the importance of recognizing these roles, seeking therapeutic support, and redefining one's identity beyond these imposed familial expectations.


00:00 Introduction and Riddle

01:07 Understanding the Role You Play

01:15 Welcome to Episode 106: Uncovering Narcissistic Family Dynamics

01:42 The Concept of a Perfect Family

04:08 The Impact of Dysfunctional Families on Children

11:49 The Role of the Enabler in Dysfunctional Families

12:13 Denise's Story: A Case Study

15:22 Understanding Family Roles and Dynamics

16:19 The Enabler: A Deep Dive

21:07 The Concept of an Old Soul in Psychology

22:01 The Bittersweet Compliment: Acknowledging Resilience and Sacrifice

22:21 The Hero: The Lead Actor in a Dysfunctional Family

23:50 The Golden Child: The Hero's Struggle

27:01 The Scapegoat: The Misunderstood Hero

29:58 The Lost Child: The Unseen and Unheard

36:31 The Mascot: The Family's Beacon of Light and Laughter

39:02 Reflections: Understanding the Complex Roles in Dysfunctional Families

43:24 The Journey Towards Healing and Change

44:48 Conclusion: Transcending the Roles and Writing Your Own Narrative


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