TMM121 Conscious Communication With Pamela Pannifex.

As leaders in life it’s essential to ensure we evolve and recognise patterns and behaviours that may hold us back from harmony. I firmly believe communication is the critical pathway for clarity, calm and connection and that’s why I have asked Pamela Panifex from Sunshine Holistic Counselling to join me on this episode of The Mojo Maker show and podcast.. 

With a master’s degree in psychotherapy and almost three decades in the field developing her approach, Pamela has created a truly unique practice, specialising in relationships, marriage counselling and individual therapy.

Pamela is a fully qualified naturopath and understands that ‘healthy’ and ‘productive’ relationships, whether it’s personal, or business go hand in hand. Her mission, like mine, is to ensure the ‘right’ knowledge empowers people to thrive and perhaps most importantly, to help them self discover and grow.

We came together to discuss the important aspect of evolving communication, since communication is so often responsible for ‘unhealthy’ relationships that given the right tools, could so easily be navigated away from chaos to calm. . 

In this episode we run through

* how to communicate from a place of peace and harmony* the importance of not shutting communication barriers down* ways to move into a better space for equal alignment* the awareness of your authentic truth and how it is best for all. 

+ Practicing those

+ Rookie errors

– How to recover the speed bumps when you are learning these new skills

– Common mistakes that disempower by well-meaning partnerships

– When both of you are learning how to assert your truth

Framed around the 3 Styles of communication:

* Passive* Aggressive* Assertive

The first two are more commonly used and why we use them, may be greatly influenced by learnt behaviours from our family, how we were disciplined and what was expected of us as a child. 

The third style requires self awareness and is perhaps the most difficult to articulate –  as so often being in ‘truth’ can be perceived as selfish or aggressive  – wherein it is absolutely not the case. In fact assertive communication delivered with a grounded approach is the most valuable style of communication for both personal and commercial world. 

When we let people know what we believe, where we stand and what is important to us from a place of centred honesty it empowers them to own their own response, contribution and connection to that for a reciprocal partnership or natural and calm recognition of when the alignment is not really there at all. 

First up – we are often taught to sell or tell rather than just advise and empower  – when we stand in truth and provide clear frameworks it benefits all parties. The delivery and receipt of that information is where the awareness needs to come into play. 

So let’s look at these styles in more detail.

‘Conscious’ Communication Style 1  – Passive – trying to keep the peace

The intention is lovely, it comes from a good place and in a relationship, it’s all about I lose, you win. This approach is commonly taken, because as humans we are not going into relationships, deliberately trying to communicate in counterproductive ways.

As lovely as it sounds,