HAVING THE COURAGE TO BE DISLIKED – STANDING IN YOUR OWN POWER.

Welcome back to The Mojo Maker podcast – episode 108 talking all about the courage to walk your own path and why, when we start leading we may feel like we loose the support of others or ‘just don’t fit in’.

I was going through the “questions for Nikki” that some of you have sent in about what your biggest challenges are.  For many of my Monday Mojo readers who are leaders and founders a trend popped out –

“how do we keep our Mojo and walk our own path – even if it means accepting not everyone’s going to like it….’I.e. to lead by example instead of follow others – and to forge your own path at the risk of “not fitting in” anywhere else. 

Great leaders:

– Display a sense of “courage” in one way or another 

–  Understand the importance of grounded decision making and trusting their gut vision even at the most challenging moments. 

– It might not be easy but they aren’t afraid to make tough calls if it’s the right one to take

– Thrive on creating something new, a discovery, an idea, a process or a project that lights them up –

A Sense Of Purpose Is A Privilege

I’ve just spent the last 3 days with my family in the very south of the North Island NZ, celebrating my fathers 90th birthday. It was truly special. 

A pioneer in so many ways, Dad never really paid too much attention to what anyone else thought of him or what others were doing. Or if he did he hid it well.

When something got to him – he didn’t let disbelievers or nee-sayers get in the way of his deep purpose. Even when the chips were down – there was no stopping Trevor.

However it wasn’t easy for him – seeing opportunities everyone else didn’t, taking the risks, and overcoming challenges. Starting from absolutely nothing.

My father taught me that with courage comes responsibility. It can feel isolating at times and you really need to be able to trust yourself and that “hunch” above anything else. 

The one constant is that he choose his inner circle very carefully and fostered a sense of collective pride for those who worked with him and alongside him. 

– He shard his vision and the wins.

– Through the good and the bad.

Feeling Disliked – aka Not Fitting In?

You may be reading this and feel that you’ve always felt  just a little bit different from so many others around you.

You’ll probably easily do more hours in your work as it is your passion, prepared to take some risks, see some sights and put your ideas on the line. Manage your day to day world differently. 

The world always needs risk takes and game changers, The pioneers and the inventors and innovators. We also really need the good values that get passed down to ensure a legacy and positive ripple effect occurs as a result.

* Communicate to your inner circle – don’t keep them in the dark* Inspire others with your vision and ensure you share the wins along the way they are a part of co-creating* Make the tough but necessary decisions with grace and humility – and ALWAYS recognise your true supporters. 

As I said a couple of weeks ago  – If you don’t leap