Hello and welcome to the Love Life Connection podcast, a podcast for successful women who feel like they have it all except love. I'm your host of Veronica Grant, a love and life coach and my only goal with this podcast is to inspire you to believe in yourself and that real love is possible for you even in our swipe right, swipe left world. Hello and welcome to day five of the 2020 Love Vision podcast challenge and congratulations you made it! After you listen to today's episode and do the mini assignment, you have completed this challenge and I hope you have a lot more clarity and guidance as to what your next steps are going to be in your love life. So today is day five and it's all about taking one action step towards love and I'm going to walk you through how to do that. So not to worry. And again, as always, if you haven't listened to you days one, two, three, and four and don't really know what I'm talking about, I highly recommend you start with day one and go from there because everything builds on the step before it. And I think it's just going to make the most sense and you'll get the most out of it. Okay, so today we're going to finally take an action step towards love. Now I like to go real slow when it comes to creating new habits and actions in your love life and honestly just your life in general. That's because I believe that's how habits and things shift sustainably over the long term. I think that if you were to wake up tomorrow morning and just decide you're just going to change everything about all the habits that you do in your life, you might do it for a week, two weeks, maybe a month if you're super lucky and motivated. But at some point you're just going to get sick or you're going to get busy or you're going to get tired or whatever it is, and you're going to say, "Screw it." And you're going to go right back to whatever it was you were doing before. So I like to just add in one, maybe two, habits at a time. Really stick with those for 40 days because that's what research says, how long it takes for a habit to stick. And then once that feels more normal and natural, add a habit or another action that you're going to take on top of that. I know that can feel like a really slow, daunting process, but I like to start with the biggest things that are going to make the biggest difference because a lot of times if we do one big habit differently, then I think that a lot of other smaller things can kind of just ride on the coattails. So for example, let's say you really just want to get 10,000 steps every day. You know that if you moved your body, a lot of things would change for you. You would feel better, you'd be getting more oxytocin and oxygen and all of the feel good stuff into your body more so then your emotions would feel better. You wouldn't be as likely to go down as many rabbit holes, or shit talk yourself, and you'd probably also sleep better, then you'd feel more rested. So you could see how just picking one habit, I'm not saying 10,000 steps has to be the thing, but one habit can actually invite a lot of other things that you might want to shift in your life. And it will happen almost organically just because it's simply riding on the coattails of the big goal that you want to shift. Now, here's how I like to think. When I'm thinking either for myself or with a client on what needs to shift in their life first. So I've talked about this on the show before. I talk about with all my clients. I think of everything in four categories. So what I mean by everything is the things that we can do to change our life, to change our love life, whatever part of life we want to change. And the four categories are the physical, the mental, the emotional, and the spiritual. So the physical are things that you say, the things that you do, the things that you don't do. So that can be things like exercising. It can be about eating in a different way. It could be about setting up a morning routine and having some