Welcome to episode 202 of the Love Live Connection podcast. Today I am welcoming a very special guest, Alison Armstrong. Her book, The Queen’s Code, has had a huge impact on my life and relationship. She has taught me to ask, “What if men aren’t misbehaving?” Learn about Alison’s incredible research and the lessons that have come from it. She has been studying men, women, and their relationships with one another for almost 30 years!  2:15 - Let’s ask ourselves: What if men aren’t misbehaving? Is it men or is it me?  6:18 - Welcome Alison!   10:20 - We often confuse the men in our lives when we state a need but do not follow through with action.  15:07 - Why do we believe others are intentionally misbehaving? What if no one is actually misbehaving?   20:15 - The words masculine and feminine are loaded with baggage, men AND women should focus on being committed and goal oriented.   24:30 - All humans have a tendency to objectify ourselves by applying labels.  28:34 - Relationships are based on expectations, partnerships have shared power that flows.  31:10 - The importance of acknowledging men as human beings in everyday life.  34:00 - Criticism does not inspire men to be better.  39:02 - If given the chance, an emasculated man will step into powerful space you have created.  41:00 - Appreciation brings out the type of behavior criticism never could.  42:15 - Connect with Alison on her website, understandmen.com, and find more information on her YouTube channel.  After you listen to this episode, here are your next steps: Sign up for The 5-Step Strategy To Banish Anxiety and Overwhelm in Your Love Life here. Ready to explore what working with me is like?  Learn more here. Interested in being coached on the Love Live Connection? Learn more here. Are we connected on Instagram? Come tell me WHO you are here! If you get value from the Love Life Connection, please rate & review it on Apple Podcasts. It only takes a sec to impact our ranking + it’ll help other women find our community!