Episode: Monday, May 19, 2025

In this deeply vulnerable episode, Suze and Jakko explore how self-judgment perpetuates trauma cycles and creates false narratives about ourselves. Building on last week’s conversation about society’s false promises, they share personal stories about misinterpreting others’ words, childhood experiences that shaped their brain filters, and the challenging journey toward authentic connection. This raw conversation reveals how our nervous systems become wired to support negative beliefs, and why intellectual understanding alone isn’t enough to break free from these patterns.

• How our brain filters interpret what we see based on past experiences
• The misunderstandings that occur between partners and how they reinforce harmful self-beliefs
• Developmental trauma and why “peeling away layers” isn’t enough for healing
• The difference between introverts and those suffering from social trauma
• Why changing our perspective requires a connection to something larger than ourselves
• How parents unintentionally teach conditional love while trying to help their children
• Creating sacred spaces for connection with God/higher power as a foundation for healing

• “We are interpreting what we think we see. My nervous system is wired in a way that it will easily support evidence that I’m a horrible person.”
• “This kind of developmental trauma isn’t rooted in an incident… It is rooted in not erasing what happened, but actually in rebuilding what didn’t happen.”
• “There’s a big difference between being introverted and being scared of people and traumatized.”
• “You need to allow yourself to be wrong about everything… We can’t do that without connecting to God, to a bigger field of knowing.”
• “I think validation of our truth always comes from self-judgment. If we have the need for external validation of our identity, then that means there’s part of us judging.”

Join us next week as we dive deeper into toxic shame – how it manifests, why it blocks our healing work, and practical approaches to releasing its grip on our lives.