My guest Dr. Gary Salyer is a well-known subject matter expert in the area of attachment theory. That means he has spent a whole lot of time studying how--and why--humans fall in love and the alchemy of relationships. He also knows something about why people fall OUT of love and tend to hurt each other even when they're IN love. His book is called Safe To Love Again, and in this episode we talk about whether or not falling in love is worth it, and if so how to make it last. Why do so many men scoff at the idea of falling in love, as if it's grounds for surrendering one's 'man card'? Is the idea of getting into a long-term relationship with someone specifically because of how one feels toward them legit? After all, it's a relatively modern construct. And what of the confusion among us as men when we're told on one hand to be stoic in our masculinity, while on the other hand being told it's okay and healthy to exhibit more emotion...especially in the context of a relationship? So then, is love a feeling or is it more of a decision? Is it indeed better to have loved and lost than to never have loved at all? If we indeed lose love, how do we keep that baggage from negatively affecting our next chance at it? And how does Attachment Theory attempt to make sense of all this? If love is the question, this show has the answers. And if you're ready to move past the roadblocks and find a mutually-fulfilling relationship with the woman of your dreams, now is the time to make a bold move to get her into your life. Start with a free 25-minute consultation with me personally--or check out the BRAND NEW Giant Leap coaching program--both of which you can get going on at https://mountaintoppodcast.com === HELP US SEND THE MESSAGE TO GREAT MEN EVERYWHERE === We'll keep the solid, actionable content coming...all for free. If you love what you hear, please give us a 'thumbs up' by rating the show (takes one second) and leaving us a review. As we say here in Texas, we appreciate you!