What makes the ins and outs of sexuality so hard to talk aboout? 
It turns out, if couples do talk about sex, the conversation is often mostly about frequency.  However, what is missing are the zillion of other thoughts and feelings we have about intimacy (or lack there of), desire (or lack thereof), fantasies (or lack thereof), pleasure (or lack therefo) and, oh yeah, the mechanics of sex as well.  
But don’t sweat it, in this episode Therapist Uncensored co-host Dr. Ann Kelley joins guest Dr. Susan Ansorge to talk about talking about sex.  
Learn to overcome the difficulties of opening up to yourself and your sexual partner about these very personal and understandably anxiety-filled conversations.
Dr. Susan Ansorge is a practicing psychologist in Austin, TX. Her interest, training and experience in working with sexual issues began during her tenure as a staff psychologist at the UT Counseling and Mental Health Center, and has continued through her 17 years of private practice. Dr. Ansorge was also member of the Austin Women’s Psychotherapy Project, bringing leaders in the field of gender-aware Psychotherapy to the Austin area, as well as presenting locally and nationally on topics in the areas of gender and sexuality as they relate to psychotherapy. Her written work has appeared in the National Center for PTSD Quarterly.
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Introduction
General difficulties in discussing sex with your partner
Learning to talk about talking about sex
Desire discrepancy and more complicated questions/conversations about sex
The difficulty in beginning a discussion that you are afraid might be hurtful to your partner
 
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How best to get dialogue going with your partner about desires and likes/dislikes
When and where is the right place and time for the right conversation about your shared sex life?
How sex is initiated and finding a compatible middle ground
Desires and fantasies can often be considered taboo, but fantasies can also be a gold mine of communication
Difference in fantasies between men and women, women of different ages
 
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The element of novelty in women’s fantasies and element of pleasing their partner in men’s fantasies
Part of women’s fantasies is being desired
Caretaking and nurturing is counterintuitive to sexual narcissism
Avoiding arousal/desire censorship
 
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How to bring up talking about sex to one’s partner and using available resources
Appreciating one’s partners perspective just like in any communication setting
Wrap up and outro
 
Resources
Mating in Captivity: Unlocking Erotic Intelligence by Esther Perel, former guest on our show.
The Erotic Mind: Unlocking the Inner Sources of Passion and Fulfillment by Jack Morin
 Tired Woman’s Guide to Passionate Sex:  Reclaim Your Desire and Reignite Your Relationship by Laurie B. Mintz
 Come as You Are by Emily Nagosaki

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