In this episode, we continue our enlightening conversation with Dr. David Friedman, as we delve into the transformative journey of open nesting, vitality, spirituality, and the nuanced aspects of sexuality, including BDSM. As an open nester himself, David shares profound insights into how this life transition opens up new dimensions of exploration and personal growth. We navigate the complexities of changing relationships with adult children and the exciting possibilities that emerge when one embraces the open nesting philosophy, seeing it not as an end but as a beginning brimming with potential.

We discuss the multi-layered approach to open nesting, examining its psychological and emotional facets. David reflects on his own career shift from a respected PhD in engineering at MIT to a leading figure in the realm of sexuality and relationship coaching. This shift was not just professional for him; it was deeply personal, embodying the essence of vulnerability and the willingness to explore unfamiliar territory. He emphasizes the importance of community and connection, particularly in the context of aging, where reaching out and asking for help becomes a crucial skill.

The conversation naturally progresses to the themes of vitality and BDSM, where David articulates how his coaching helps to rejuvenate individuals’ senses of self and passion. Each person's journey towards understanding their desires is unique, and he highlights the significance of creating a "permission field," allowing individuals to explore and articulate what they truly want. This notion expands into a broader discussion about how curiosity and play are vital components of vitality and emotional well-being, particularly as individuals age.

Through anecdotes including his own experiences with yoga and mindfulness, David conveys a poignant message: the journey to self-discovery is ongoing, and it is never too late to begin. We explore the therapeutic aspects of BDSM, where acts of play can evolve into profound relational dynamics that challenge and heal old wounds. Through the lens of BDSM, he elucidates the concepts of surrender and control, highlighting the transformative power of establishing trust and communication within relationships.

David's approach prioritizes safe and consensual interactions, underscoring the importance of aftercare in the BDSM practice. Aftercare serves as a beautiful counterpart to the intense experiences, ensuring that emotional and physical well-being are preserved. Listeners are provided with valuable insights on navigating grief, anger, and intimate relationships—transforming potential sources of distress into opportunities for connection and joy.

Finally, the episode addresses the need to normalize conversations around BDSM, as it offers avenues for healing and deeper understanding of oneself and one’s partner, particularly for those in the empty nest phase. We encourage open discussions about desires, fears, and fantasies, as this dialogue fosters intimacy and connection. David invites listeners to reflect on their own appetites for exploration and to consider his workshops and retreats as spaces for further personal development.

As we conclude this rich conversation, I emphasize the importance of embodying our life force and reconnecting with the playfulness of our youth. Life, as David suggests, is about the continuous journey of discovery, learning, and growing—an adventure that only begins when we embrace the openness of life beyond the nest.