Carter has been reading Tom DeBlass’ new book and has found it fascinating to read about his journey into jiu-jitsu, and how he healed from a turbulent childhood. In this episode Carter and Mo discuss online personas, mental health and how life is short.

• Should your online persona match your offline persona? (00:00)

• Who Tom DeBlass is (02:20)

• Tom DeBlass’ book (03:15)

• There are people who Carter doesn’t like in real life but whose online persona he does like (06:12)

• The start of Tom’s jiu-jitsu career and his attitude to training (11:22)

• Understating the importance of good role models (14:27)

• How tom dealt with the mental health aspect of fighing (15:43)

• The importance of diversifying streams of income (19:42)

• Covid and being in intensive care (22:46)

• People who act like they aren’t going to die (26:00)

• The impact of ego and criticism on an online persona (27:29)

• The metaverse is coming (31:54)

• Depression in the jiu-jitsu community (36:03)

How You Bear It: Triumph and Resiliency in Life by Tom DeBlass