James Tusk and Modern Man’s Dating Dilemmas
James is a prominent London-based dating coach helps us go deep down the rabbit hole on game (pickup), dating, relationships, Tinder, the consumption of people, and the importance of looks in attracting the opposite sex.
 His speciality is honest, direct daygame. James’ brand of daygame involves no cheesy gimmicks such as fluffy hats, magic tricks, or atomic negs, and instead is based on straight-forward and authentic masculine confidence (the type our grandfathers had!).
James puts a big emphasis on helping his students develop into 21st century men who have their shit together; are confident, emotionally calibrated and can hold their own in any social situation.
We start the conversation by delving into James’ past and learning about his experiences as the “good looking guy who didn’t get laid”. Like many of us (handsome bastards), he made the mistake of imagining (or more technically ‘projecting’) that girls judged guys purely on looks and that being good-looking was enough (in the way that it usually is for a girl), when in reality a man is required to bring so much more than looks to the table.
James tells us how blown away he was when he witnessed his first daygame approach and how he became filled with a desire to learn how to meet and attract women during the day on the street. In order to learn the art of daygame he went to live in the same house as London daygame legends Tom Torero and Jon Matrix, dedicating himself to overcoming his fears, diving into scary social situations, mastering the new skillset, and of course…… having fun! James’ story about his first ever daygame approach (involving an absolute stunner and some stray vomit) is absolutely worth the admission price all on its own!
We go on to discuss how much a man’s good looks (or lack thereof) matter when it comes to the standard of girls he can hope to attract. As James points out, since the idea of daygame is to get ‘younger, hotter, tighter’ girls than you, you should be aiming for girls who are hotter than you, and in these cases your looks don’t really impress her – she is supplying the looks, you are supplying the masculine charm. While looks certainly help and give you an ‘in’, they aren’t as important as they are often made out to be. James advocates an holistic approach – fashion, gym, passions – a man needs to have an all-round attractive lifestyle that women want to be a part of.
The darker sides of game and the potential psychological pitfalls that men can experience when practicing game are not often discussed. Here we go deep on the potentially addictive nature of daygame, the difficulty of keeping a relationship together when you are a game-aware man, the obsessive-compulsive tendencies that can overtake men when gaming, and the reckless behaviour that daygamers can indulge in (especially during the ‘honeymoon period’ when a man realises his newfound power and lets everything else in his life fall by the wayside!).
James talks about his suggestions for the best way to fit daygame into a healthy, balanced lifestyle. He gives ideas on how to nurture your skills over the longer term without letting daygame take over your life.
We discuss the different relationship types that are options for game-aware men (monogamous, polygamous, multiple lovers, totally debauched male-whore mode) and how best to go about cultivating the lovelife you desire.
We end the conversation with a few great book recommendations from James.
It was a fantastic chat. Thanks James!
Enjoy the episode.
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