“That’s what we do. We deny the parts of ourselves that are the most authentic expression of who we are in this world. It takes a ton of energy, it’s exhausting, but we don’t even realize how exhausting it is until we finally own up to it.” – Philip McKernan

 



 

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Show Notes

[02:08] Patrick introduces his next guest, Philip McKernan.

[03:36] Philip and Patrick reconnect over the Zoom waves after several years and catch up with what Philip is up to now.

[06:31] Philip expands on the type of work he and his wife Pauline are doing and how they have doubled-down in the last few years to reach as many people as possible.

[08:25] The perfect referral that he never imagined – the desire for personal growth and development becoming proactive rather than reactive. The work they’re doing now with clients is broadening and going to deeper to lean into that shift.

[11:47] Regrets, They’ve Had a Few. The data collected by a hospice worker on the regrets of the dying; I wish: I’d had the courage to live true to myself and not others’ expectations, I hadn’t worked so hard, I had the courage to express my feelings, I had stayed in touched with friends, I’d let myself be happier.

[14:12] Philip’s perspective on why people choose not to be happy.

[16:56] Patrick gives some context around aligning with our values and how he got tripped up by compromising his.

[18:55] The magic and gold that exists when we explore our past to learn from it. Philip shares an example of this from one of their Ireland retreats and the work that results from that personal journey.

[22:40] The way we show up to create an impact doesn’t have to occur in epic proportions.

[23:46] A rich and robust conversation between Philip and Patrick is built on the fundamental truth that finding purpose, sharing our gifts, being of contribution and creating impact in a way that aligns with who we truly are, is neither about monetization nor the money. Money is a useful outcome but the joy and truth of giving ourselves permission to connect with people from an authentic expression of who we are, is where the value lives. Listen to the examples they share of how this occurs.

[38:42] Philip explains how much of what he delivers in his work from a place of intuition and how that has changed for him over the years. He also shares an observation of Patrick in the spirit of illustrating that our biggest impact usually stems from the things that come most naturally to us.

[43:05] Philip delivers a beautiful example from One Last Talk of the impact available to others when we share what’s within our heart.

[46:27] Releasing the shame we carry and cling to, could be the single greatest opening to our personal freedom. Similarly, releasing the stubborn need to be right and making amends allows us to move forward with grace.

[50:39] In this current COVID-19 reality of self-isolation and slowing down, Philip offers three questions for those who are creating this time for self reflection. 1) Who am I going to be through this crisis? 2) How am I going to remember myself as I look back? 3) How can I nurture myself during this time; how can I support myself, my family, my community, humanity? One bonus question: if the world suddenly flipped the switch back on – are you going to take up exactly where you left off or are you going to make some changes?

[56:12] Shifting the stories we identify with: “this is just the way I ...