The Dating Show

The Dating Show


The Dating Show May 2014 - Part Three

May 24, 2014

In the third edition of the Dating Show for May, we look at dancing, and how to use your moves on the dance floor to impress the other sex. Do you have the dance moves to find love?


To read a full transcript, read on below.


R: In this edition of The Dating Show, I’m Fred Astaire, and you’re Ginger Rogers. Do you like my suit?


D: Rod I was going to mention that.


R: What’s the problem with it?


D: Well, it’s white… and it’s bright.


R: You know who I’m trying to be, don’t you?


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D: Saturday Night Fever, love it.


R: I can do those moves.


D: I’ve seen, Rod. Great…


R: Anyway, are you a good dancer?


D: I think I am.


R: So we’re talking about dancing, and we’ve got a dancer on the show.


D: Cool.


R: Honor Roche.


D: Lovely.


R: So shall we hear from her?


D: Sounds good!


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R: Can I just test your credibility as a dancer?


H: -laughter- over the phone?


R: Can you do Swan Lake?


H: No I don’t think so, that’s a little bit out of my reach!


R: What about something like Fame?


H: Fame! That’s much more up my street. That’s more down the jazz and commercial route as well. Fame is much more me.


R: What about the splits, can you do that?


H: Just about! I’m not as flexible as I was. I can just about still do them after a warm up.


R: I tried this morning, I can’t do them.


H: Don’t worry, I’ll teach you next time I see you!


R: One of the problems that men have as they get older is dancing. I would look at myself and say that I used to be a good dancer but now I would say I’m not. I try and avoid dancing in public. I looked at myself last night in the mirror and I think I’m trying to do too much.


H: That could be a problem.


R: I’m trying to be too energetic on the dancefloor. It doesn’t work. Do you agree that’s the problem with most men?


H: It depends on the kind of music that you dance too because if you have a slightly more energetic number then I think throwing yourself around a little bit more is more acceptable. If you’re dancing with a lady, sometimes you might want to be a little bit more intimate with her. That is also what men struggle to do a lot of the time in my experience when I’ve been teaching couples. It’s getting that intimacy and feeling comfortable with your other half or whoever you’re dancing with.


R: What tips can you give men?


H: You’re probably right when you say you’re first starting, you’re trying to make yourself feel more comfortable. Don’t go too crazy, keep everything smaller. A lot of the time people struggle with hearing the rhythm of the music. They don’t quite know which bit to pick out and how to move your body in general. That’s what I do when I’m teaching not just couples, but individual men. I help them start small and give them a few basic moves you can put together to any track that you’re dancing too. It gives you stuff to do rather than trying to make it up as you go along which is always a bit of a problem.


R: Do you think men should practice?


H: Yeah!


R: And women?


H: Absolutely.


R: What’s the best way of doing that?


H: It’s a delicate situation. It’s always a bit easier when you’ve got someone with you to dance with. As you did last night, maybe make sure you can see what you’re doing. Just put on your favourite tracks and just move around. Sometimes people have a couple of drinks that help them move, I wouldn’t necessarily advocate that all the time though. That would probably be the best thing or just go and have a couple of lessons with a professional just to get a few basic tips and then you can apply that when you next go out.


R: You should have seen me last night, I was terrible.


H: I wish I had!


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R: OK: The slow dance…


H: Yes…


R: That always brings a real fear in me and probably in a lot of other men, when the lights go down and you’ve got to get a bit intimate. I mean, come on! What do we do in that situation?


H: Well… That’s a hard one again! That’s probably harder than the whole up tempo situation. I guess what you need to do is just see if you can go slow, but try and relax as much as possible, especially if you’re dancing with a girl. I’m presuming you’re thinking about a situation where you might want to take the lady onto a dancefloor at the end of the night, or something like that. Getting past that first hurdle is the hardest part. When you’re with her, just move really slowly, keep her nice and close to you and don’t do anything too outrageous, unless you want to. Just try and relax as much as possible, that’s the key thing really.


R: Do you think men and women are attracted by a potential partner that can actually dance and they’re put off by somebody who looks like a bit of an octopus on the dancefloor?


H: -laughter- From a lady’s perspective, I don’t know if you agree from a man’s perspective, having a guy who can dance is really attractive. Especially when you’re doing partner dancing, not just when you’re dancing on your own. It’s nice to have a man who can lead you round. That’s a lot of the reasons as to why the men I teach come to me. They want to have that ability and be more relaxed when they’re dancing with a girl, especially with somebody who they’re already going out with, or even more so, someone they’re interested in. It is a huge asset, I think, to be able to do it.


R: Have you seen a lot more interest in dancing since programmes like Strictly Come Dancing have come on?


H: Yes, absolutely! That programme has done a world of good to make people see that you can do it. Before, ballroom and latin and the whole partner dancing thing wasn’t really publicly known, compared to what it is know. It’s not just helped put our industry on the map a bit more, but when you have that combination of a professional and an amateur, you can see how quickly, with the right training and practice, everyone can do it! It doesn’t have to be things that are difficult that you see the guys doing on that show. It could just be very simple, practical tips that you can learn that will make you feel much more comfortable.


R: One thing that concerns me a little bit is women in high heels dancing.


H: OK…


R: Well it doesn’t really concern me.


H: I was just wondering, why would it concern you?!


R: It doesn’t concern me, but it probably concerns a lot of women! Is there techniques you can do to be a good dancer while wearing high heels?


H: It is a tricky one. Actually, in terms of the dancing I teach now, predominantly ballroom and latin, we always have to wear heels for those dances because of the way that you move, wearing heels makes it easier. When I teach couples for their wedding dance, I recommend the ladies come and wear, if not the actual shoes, then a pair that are very similar to what they’ll be wearing on the day to get used to it. In terms of when you’re dancing in heels, you’re not going to be doing any Fame-esque things. It’s just going to be if you’re out on a night out. Most girls wear heels when they go out. It helps you with confidence as well a lot of the time. I think you always feel a little bit more glamorous and a bit sexier when you’re wearing a pair of heels. It enhances what you’re doing sometimes. I don’t think it’s a huge problem. Girls are used to it!


R: Looking at the ballroom, what’s your favourite dance? I like the Argentine Tango.


H: Everyone loves that one! I think that one is everyone’s favourite just because when the professionals dance it they make it look so effortless. It’s obviously very intimate, it’s very passionate and very sexy because it’s quite understated. It looks a bit more achievable than some of the faster dances, or the ones with lifts and things likes that. Of course, you can make it very complicated and it is certainly not easy to do it well, but I think that’s why people like it, because it looks like something you could do socially. It looks like something you could do on a dancefloor with your partner.


R: I’m not sure I could do it at the moment, but maybe with a bit of coaching.


H: Yes. I think that’s why it’s most people’s favourites.


R: I’m going to pick her up on that Debbie. I’m going to go for a bit of coaching with her.


D: I think you could do with that Rod.


R: Private lessons…


D: Private lessons?


R: Yes! The Argentine Tango. I’d like to be able to do that. Just picking her up on a couple of points there, she said a lot of people, especially men, struggle to hear the rhythm. At my age, I struggle to hear the music!


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R: And also on the slow dance, hands… Where do you put them?


D: It just happens!


R: You don’t want to be too intimate.


D: No, it just depends on how well you know the lady, doesn’t it really? It does depend on how relaxed you are. One of my most treasured memories actually is a slow dance to Three Times A Lady. Everytime I hear that song, it takes me right back.


R: Ooh! Lovely.


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R: What about this song though?


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D: I love this, John Travolta!


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