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Mental Health Unplugged: From Narcissism to Personal Growth - Mackie Joins Tony for a TikTok Live QA

March 18, 2025

Tony, a licensed marriage and family therapist, author, speaker, and podcast host, welcomes viewers to an engaging TikTok Live session. Joined by his daughter Mackie, Tony answers questions on various topics including relationships, mental health, and narcissism. They discuss the concept of the shadow self, the 'Let Them' theory, handling emotional triggers, and the importance of differentiation in relationships. Tony offers advice on dealing with controlling siblings, building clientele as a therapist, managing ADHD and its effects, and overcoming trust issues in relationships. They also touch on practical self-care tips and the journey of personal growth, using real-life examples and interactive discussions with their audience.


00:00 Welcome to TikTok Live

00:10 Introducing the Hosts

00:16 Engaging with Viewers

02:12 Discussing the Shadow Self

04:55 Exploring Family Dynamics

05:51 Romantic Relationships and Vulnerability

06:35 Understanding Emotional Reactions

08:07 Differentiation and Parental Influence

09:59 Setting Boundaries with Parents

10:47 The 'Let Them' Theory

15:20 Dealing with Emotional Regression

17:29 Navigating Breakups and Grief

20:43 Control and Mental Health

22:16 Book Recommendations for Couples

24:09 Making Small Changes for Big Impact

29:56 Managing Depression and Anxiety

31:43 Understanding and Accepting Anxiety

32:28 Facing Fears and Building Connections

33:43 Navigating Negative Environments

38:22 Inner Critic and Self-Acceptance

42:00 Challenges in Therapy and Relationships

01:01:59 Dealing with ADHD and Rejection Sensitivity

01:05:20 Conclusion and Final Thoughts