When during the day do you and your wife have sex? Is that because it works best at that time, or is it just what you do because, ah, reasons? Most folks have sex at bedtime because that is what we think is normal.... The post The Best Time for Sex: Findi

In a comment, one of you asked for some encouragement on emotional intimacy. As in feeling something without using your hands. You know, that emotional junk women want all the time. Okay, just kidding its an important issue. Lets start with some gro

This is a follow-up of sorts on Tuesdays Becoming Your Authentic Self: Embracing Gods Design. God tells us to tell the truth in love. The love part of that is neither an afterthought nor is it optional. If you cant tell the truth in...The post Truth i

I talk a lot about Becoming Yourself. Most of the time I make it clear that what I mean is becoming the man God made you to be. Thats an important distinction. Ive heard people complain they cant be themselves with certain people. Often...The post Bec

Ask your wife what needs to be fixed or made more functional around the house. This gives her a chance to be rid of a minor irritation, and thats good for her and for your marriage. Ask this question regularly to keep the home...The post Enhancing House

I want to talk about the so-called orgasm gap today. This is a tricky issue since most of the studies about it are poorly done in one way or another. For example, its known that a woman in a relationship is six times more...The post Closing the Orgasm G

Most of us have had some problem with our in-laws, and most wives have had some problems with their husbands family of origin. A certain amount of friction is to be expected and to be tolerated. However, when the issues are significant, it...The post

Another of ChatGPTs suggested article topics for making a heterosexual man a better husband was How to Keep the Romance Alive in Your Marriage. I may not write about this often enough. While Im a natural romantic, Lori has virtually no interest. Once,

In an XY Code post entitled Its My Job, So Im A Failure, I mentioned that Lori tried to comfort me and failed. In fact, she had the opposite effect from what she was trying to do. This is a common issue in marriages....The post Improving Comforting Ski

Before we get out of bed, Lori often asks me what I am doing that day. This is a practical question that allows us to coordinate our days. We discuss what we both want to get done, and where we may need the other’s... The post Enhancing Efficiency and Und