I saw amovie promo the other day for a remake of Total Recall. The premise is that its possible to record a persons memories and inject them into others, resulting in the person thinking they have actually lived those things. I wish I could...The po

I want to follow up on what I said about being too busy endangering our marriages, our happiness, and our very lives. I want to suggest this is a headship issue. I dont talk a lot about headship because its a hot button issue,...The post Husbands, Lead

Yesterday I said being too busy was a big marriage killer. Today, another one: defensiveness. Ive been guilty of this most of my marriage, and I can see how its hurt my wife. I still feel it inside on occasion, but most of the...The post Defensiveness:

Ive added a new category Do Less in 2024, and it will be an ongoing theme for this year. More and more I am seeing how our insane busyness is a massive problem. It hurts virtually all of us, both directly and indirectly....The post Do Less in 2024: Bu

As you might guess, my news feed is full of sex research. Much of that shows up here, but I cant do all of it. So with a growing backlog, I thought Id do a year-end wrap up. Ill give you the information, my...The post 2023 Sex Research Wrap-Up: Explor

Before you ring out the old year and ring in the new year, is there any offence from 2023 you should deal with? This is smart across the board, but my focus is on your marriage. Im not talking about whos at fault here,...The post Resolving Marriage Iss

I recently read someone talking about being trapped in a narrative. I think most of us have been hurt by this, and I want to say a few word about it. First, let me be clear what Im discussing. The technical term is narrative...The post The Danger of Fa

Please see the year-end giving plea at the bottom! Do you have a devotional for next year? Yes, I mention this the end of every year. I do that because I think its a big deal. Devotionals are a great way to grow in...The post Devotional for a New Year:

I pray that each of you has a blessed and meaningful Christmas with family and friends. May the Lord of Christmas hold you and minster to you, be it in your joy or your sorrow. Image Credit: Carlos Santa Maria | stock.adobe.com Shop...The post The Lig

So yesterday, I told the women on The XY Code to make time to reconnect emotionally, and to also have sex sometime the next few days. And I can hear many of you saying, If only. I sincerely hope you have sex, more than...The post Revving Her Sex Drive