A person who is seeking intentional relationships knows that they must be making decisions and not reacting. Grow and protect your relationships by being intentional.

When you are reacting, an outside source is dictating how you are going to respond to the stress of that source. When you think ahead, you are able to plan out what you will do if certain circumstances present themselves.

Your relationship should be better after the fight than before because you and the other person worked through whatever you needed to. Fighting is the removal of things that should not be as they are.

Some relationships end and you need to know when it is time for those to end. You need to be able to make that decision for yourself instead of responding reflexively to the situation at hand.

When you are freezing decisively you are actively waiting out to see if there needs to be a response. You are also recognizing that the problem may resolve itself.

There isn't any clear cut way to decide when you need to fight, when you need to flee, and when you need to freeze. All of these are situational. The only thing that will make you better at deciding is practicing. All you can do is take the first step by committing to practice.