A listener writes in wanting to know if her bisexual fantasies means that she is bisexual. If she is bi, does that mean she needs to tell her boyfriend? Should she try to make her bisexual fantasies a reality, or just stay secretly bi curious?

We explore the complexity of sexual desire, how to tell a fantasy from a desire and the ethics of fantasizing during sex with your partner. We also offer a range of options for exploring bi curious desires without risking your relationship.