Dear Pleasure Mechanics,

My boyfriend and I listen to your podcast every week and it has prompted some very exciting conversations and bedroom adventures. For this, I thank you. But last night he told me he wants to try irrumatio. I told him I would think about it, primarily because I didn’t even know what it was. When I googled it this morning, I was a bit horrified. What could he possibly mean by this, because surely he doesn’t really want to orally rape me? Your advice please.

Thanks,

My lips are sealed.

In this episode, we cover:

- The historical roots of the term Irrumatio

- The power dynamics of oral sex

- How to make irrumatio a fun exploration for both of you