Sex With Dr. Jess
Your Guide to G-Spots & Squirting
This week’s episode is a wet one! Jess shares the science of G-Spots & squirting along with techniques you can try tonight. She answers common questions including: Can all women squirt? Is the G-Spot a real thing? Is female ejaculate pee? How can I get my partner to squirt? What is the Vagus nerve?
If you’d rather read about the G-Spot and Squirting, check out some summary notes from The New Sex Bible below:
The G-Spot
This sensitive area accessible through the upper wall of the vagina (toward the stomach) has enjoyed its share of controversy over the years. Dr. Beverly Whipple named the G-Spot after Dr. Ernst Grafenberg, M.D., who previously described it as a “distinct erotogenic zone” on the anterior vaginal wall along the urethra that responds to sexual stimulation. The G-Spot is an area marked by many sensitive nerve pathways, tissues and organs, but it is not a distinct entity, nor is it located inside of the vagina; Dr. Whipple clarifies that it can be felt through the vagina and when stimulated, the tissue begins to swell. As opposed to being a singular organ, it is believed that its sensitivity is connected to corollary stimulation of the female prostate (previously referred to as Skene’s glands), urethral sponge and inner clitoris.
Remember that the G-Spot isn’t a distinct organ, but an area of the body that is associated with the release of fluids. Each woman’s experience with the G-Spot is unique and the degree of pleasure associated with this sensitive area can vary according to a number of factors including arousal levels and monthly cycle. I’ve heard women describe G-Spot stimulation as irritating, weird, neutral, tickling, euphoric, sensational and unbelievably titillating. The bottom line is that there is no right way to experience pleasure and no two bodies respond in the exact same way.
Sex Tip From The Pros
Though squirting isn’t a sideshow trick and not every woman will experience the same degree of ejaculation, you can encourage fluid expulsion by bearing down with your PC muscles. As you approach orgasm, take a few deep breaths as you “push out” with the muscles around your vagina. Relax and allow your body to respond naturally resting assured that the amount of liquid is not necessarily commensurate with your experience of pleasure.
There seems to be a great deal of misinformation floating around about female ejaculation, but the expulsion of fluid from the urethra is a fairly well-documented phenomenon. Not only do early sexual texts including the Kama Sutra reference women’s ability to expel fluid during sex, but the latest research reveals that the skene’s glands, which are a part of the G-Spot and drain into the urethra, are homologous to the prostate gland in men. G-Spot ejaculation, like prostate ejaculation, is a sexually-induced reaction that may or may not coincide with orgasm.
Mainstream porn may tout this “spraying” sensation as some sort of a sideshow trick, but in reality, the fluid expelled is usually less than a teaspoon in volume and doesn’t usually squirt across the room. Some women and their lovers are concerned that the fluid they discharge is urine, however, studies confirm that its contents are similar to male prostatic fluid. It has been found to contain prostatic-specific antigen, prostatic acid phosphatase, urea, creatinine, glucose and fructose. Some describe it as sweet tasting and others say that the taste is rather subdued.
The concern with regard to urinating during sex can sometimes inhibit our sexual response and limit women’s experiences of pleasure with the G-Spot and ejaculation. The skene’s glands are embedded in the spongey tissue that surrounds the urethra between the vagina and the bladder. It is therefore common for women to feel as though they have to pee when the G-Spot is stimulated through the vagina or the abdominal wall.