Self-Care Hacks

Self-Care Hacks


SCH 093 How to Feel Better and Ditch Should From Your Life

April 03, 2022

Who would have thought you could feel better if you rethink one little word? I challenge you to ditch should from your life. Let me know how it turns out!


Why You Might Want to Ditch Should

I confess I may be a little bossy. Ok. I have overwhelming bossy tendencies. For the most part, I limit my bossiness to myself. After all, as the second of four children, I had an older sister who did her fair share of bossing me around, and I didn’t always appreciate it. (Love you, Sis!)


I love information and sharing it with people, and I sometimes research the best way to do things. With all that knowledge rolling around in my head, it only makes sense that it would spill out in bossy language. But I didn’t realize until five years ago that I needed to ditch should, my go-to bossy word.


I didn’t even realize just how bossy (both to others and myself) using should sounds. After all, the word has helped me get things done. It urges me to make lists, check things off, set goals, accomplish them, and make positive changes in my life. But should has a darker side. According to Dr. David D. Burns in his book Feeling Good: The New Mood Therapy, we should ditch should from our vocabulary because it makes us feel apathetic and unmotivated. Especially if we already struggle with mood disorders.


I don’t advocate you ditch should for good since it has its uses (especially if you don’t what to sound archaic). But you may want to consider (see what I did there?) thinking about how you use the word and how hearing it may impact the people you love. Listen to today’s podcast and let me know which hack you’ll start with as you journey to ditch should from your life!


Show Notes





Who would have thought you could feel better if you rethink one little word? I challenge you to ditch should from your life. #should #mood #depression #bossymuch #feelbetter #selfcare #SelfCareSunday #SelfCareHacks

Come Back Next Week

I’m so excited about next week’s podcast when I interview Janyre Tromp about her upcoming release of Shadows in the Mind’s Eye. Janyre’s moving novel incorporates all she’s learned about PTSD and the importance of self-care in our journey to healing.


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