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30 – Bill Wojenski’s Letter to Dr. Phil

March 01, 2020

If you already understand how cruel parental alienation can be on a parent you'll appreciate the tenacity of Bill Wojenski. If you don't yet know parental alienation is one of the most gut wrenching, heart breaking experiences a parent can face. In many cases your child acts as though you are dead to them although they are not. That scenario didn't stop Bill Wojenski from fighting to see his daughters every weekend for 4 hours via supervised visitation for the last 10 years. There were many other hurdles that you can read about in the letter below. This letter was also read on the podcast. The letter was mailed to Dr. Phil about a week ago.

2-21-2020

Dear Dr Phil, I am writing you on the suggestion of several
female friends of mine who are quite familiar with my case. This started in
late 2010 when my fiancé of 7 years walked out on me for another man. At that
time the girls were 2 weeks shy of their third birthday. She stated right up
front that I would never see my girls again and has devoted her life to that.

I filled and received joint custody; neither of us was to
move out of state. Several years later she moved 3 hours away to upstate PA,
the courts never did anything about that to this day.

At the age of 4, at the request of the girls I filed for and
won overnight visits with my girls. After court, on the same day, she marched
the girls into DYFUS and accused me of molesting them. DYFUS ran with this and
it took me years to get a “no Finding” (no cause to or reason to pursue)
verdict.

Eventually the courts assigned a reunification therapist to
bring the girls back into my life. She sabotaged all efforts and when I was to
meet the girls for the first time in 5 years it was a disaster.  They went from hanging by daddy’s side, never
wanting to be away from me to terrified at the sight of me. They screamed when
they first saw me and I could hear the mothers sister say “Don’t worry; we
won’t let him hurt you”. Obviously the girls were brain washed in those 5 years
of separation.  The visit was cut short
after it was obvious it wasn’t going to work. There were numerous reports to
the courts about the mother from the reunification Doctor.

Later it was determined that I could have supervised
visitations, supervised at my request, and we started doing that supervised by
a Doctor every Saturday for 4 hours. It started out ok and continued on for
over two years. It progressed at a downward spiral until it was deemed
appropriate to cancel further visits by the Doctor. His reports to the courts
were very positive of me and very damming of the mother’s attitude and
behavior. When the girls found out that there brother, my son, William Wojenski
JR had passed at the age of 22, they said to me “One less Wojenski in the world
is a good thing”. They were 11 at that time. The Doctor heard them say that to
me and reported it to the courts.

I am still in a battle to help my girls. We have been
through 6 judges; there is no continuity in this case. I have another hearing
coming up in about two weeks. I’m not sure if this will gain either my girls or
I any movement forward. In November when they turn 14 they can and will at the
direction of the mother tell the judge that they no longer want to see me. At
that point I will never have contact with them again.

I have no communication with the girls; don’t have access to
the schools, the doctors or treatments and anything else that I should be
entitled to despite having joint custody.