So, what DO you do when apathy strikes? It might be YOUR apathy. But more likely, it will be your spouse's apathy. (And it might be both of you!) It just seems there is no emotion, no care, no conce

Have you ever been sucked into a situation or argument, then realized your actions were not what you wanted? - There is that split second, that pause, where you get to choose your response. - Many peo

Its your choice, I reassured her. It was a call I picked up between sessions. The person told me she had been following my System, but wasnt sure if she could keep it up. She wasnt sure if it

I wish this only happened every now and then. - Imagine, for a second, that someone is working on saving their marriage. In this case, they have chosen to use my System. And they are making progres

One more argument. One more struggle. They sat on my couch, facing each other down as opponents in some contest to... win... well, to be honest, I don't know what they were trying to win. Because t

Fears. They can certainly derail us humans! - But what about relationship fears? Just those basic fears and insecurities that we all carry with us in relationships? - Yep, we all have them. 2 basic

Games should be fun. But the games we are talking about today are NOT fun. - These are patterns of interaction and communication. - The design is to get a need met. But behind it is a dysfunction.

Is your marriage crisis marked by heated arguments or cold distance? Hot or cold? - Are they really that different? Or is it all a part of the same process? And how does it affect your attempts to

Maybe your spouse has been saying, "This is ALL YOUR FAULT!" Or maybe it is just you... wondering... torturing yourself... about whether this marriage crisis is your fault. Are you the problem? - Le

Miranda asked me, What do I do? My spouse is hopeless that we can save our marriage. Im losing hope, too." - A while back, I did a training for members of my VIP Program, noting three barriers in t