What is a "mind mode"?  This is what happens when your brain is caught in a state.  Sometimes, it is held hostage to a reactive state.  Other times, you get to choose a shift. - The dangerous modes are all reactive, based in fear, threat,

It may not be on purpose.  But many couples commit relationship murder.  They kill their relationship by accident. - So far, I have NEVER had someone tell me they intentionally set out to slay the marriage.  But the result is the same.

When I was 10 or 11 years old, my father took us to my first haunted house.  It was right near our church, and was run by a community group that was fundraising.  My father thought it would be good, clean fun. A few little scares, but nothing else.

You probably know my 3 C's -- Calm, Constant, and Consistent.  That is how you want to carry out your plans to save your marriage.  (Listen to this training, if you aren't familiar. CLICK HERE ) - There is a reason for those 3 C's:  the 3 A's that you...

Do you have expectations of your spouse?  Does your spouse have expectations of you? - How's that working out? - If you are like most couples, those expectations fail.  Expectations aren't met.  Resentments grow.  Disconnection creeps in. -

"For every piece of information," the writer told me, "about how divorce hurts a child, I can show you research that it doesn't harm a child." - Admittedly, the writer was a bit biased.  He was wanting to divorce his wife. -

Let's just start with a question I hear all the time:  "My spouse doesn't want to work on the marriage.  So, there is nothing I can do, right?" - Wrong. - This is one of the top myths about saving your marriage. -

"If I could just get her to go to marriage therapy with me," he told me, "I know we could turn this around." - Statistically speaking, this is likely NOT the case.  Just one myth about marital therapy. - In fact,

What do YOU believe about marriage?  Is it a myth?  Can it get you into trouble? - Have you ever heard the myth that you marry your "soul mate"?  Well, that myth can cause some pretty big problems. - How about the idea that you should never go to bed...

I get asked that question all the time:  "Is it time for me to throw in the towel?" - Almost always, it is NOT time to throw in the towel -- unless, of course, you decide to. - That term, "throw in the towel," comes from boxing.