We all "show ourselves" in our interactions with others.  Sometimes, we truly Show Up, bringing our best self to the relationship. Other times, we bring an angry/resentful presence to the table.  Other times, it might be a cold/distant presence.

Far from the first time, he turned to me in the middle of a session and said, "See? It just shouldn't be this hard.  That is why I know this marriage is wrong.  If it were right, we wouldn't struggle like this." I had to admit...

Many of my podcast episodes are really aimed at those in the midst of some marriage crisis.  Maybe it is hanging on by a thread.  Perhaps it is just in the beginning stages. Today, I want to share some information that applies to every single marriage...

Remember that children's story?  Goldilocks, lost in the woods, stumbles upon the bear family home -- which they had just left.  Inside, she finds one bowl of porridge too hot, one too cold, and one just right.  Same with chairs:  one too soft,

There it is, right on my website:  marital therapy is not particularly effective.  And yet, people often contact me to ask, "Where can I get therapy?" Why? Because our culture is psychologized and therapized, for good or bad.

We all have hurts from close relationships -- and especially in marriages.  It is impossible to be in such an intimate relationship and not bump into each other (in hurtful ways) over and over.  The problem is when the hurts don't heal. Bumps,

Many couples make the mistake of assuming that their problems are due to poor communication.  That is not (or rarely) the case.  Why do couples think this?  Because many therapists use that as the default problem to attack in therapy.

"What happened?", they ask me.  They tell me they knew things weren't great... but they had no idea that things were "this bad," to the point that a spouse is threatening separation or divorce. Suddenly, a chronic marriage problem becomes a marriage c...

I get this question often enough to know that you may be wondering, too.  Is it really possible to save a marriage, or are you just delaying the inevitable? Many people want to know this before they even start the process.

"We need to talk," is the start-up of many conversations with a spouse in marital strife.  Those words can strike fear and dread into you.  What if things turn south?  How do you respond?  What do you do? If you are following my System,