We know, you’ve probably read/listened to this topic before. But Gil and Brenda get pretty raw and keep it real when discussing this one. This marriage killer is pretty common and with these action steps provided, you can steer clear of this.

When in conflict, do not use these words: “Me/ You/ I. We use this verbiage without even realizing how much it will help defenses go up. Studies show too, that your mind is closed to exploring new ideas and solutions.

Use We/ Us/ Our. How can WE fix this? What is best for OUR relationship? Just this little change will make all the difference! Your mind is open to new strategies and a collaborative solution. Keep your “us” strong and protected!

ACTION STEPS:

1. When you begin to hear My, Me, I, and You…stop. Pause. Switch gears and move to Us, We and Our.

2. Pride? Do you “got it?” The opposite of pride is humility. Have a discussion with your spouse about the differences in our life when we choose one over the other.

3. Do you have an Eeyore (from Winnie the Pooh) complex? Do you (or your spouse) always have a negative lens you look through? That is not good for your health, and it is not good for the emotional health of those around you. Life is too short to live this way. Seeking professional help may be an option for you to explore.

4. And, discuss the #1 Marriage Killer which was shared in this podcast

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