Even in the best relationships, conflict is going to happen. Is conflict good or bad? Conflict is good, as long as you do it right! Yet, how do you control the damage that can come with conflict?  Gil and Brenda go over a few points from the Gottman Repair Checklist. Here are some real “how” to’s” to reduce the damage that can happen when conflict comes about. You can even pass this info on to your kids!

Action Steps:

1. How can we limit damage control?

Have this conversation BEFORE any conflict happens. When you are in a good place, you can (hopefully) logically share with your

spouse/partner what you need when things get tense. How can we both support each other without escalating the conflict?

2. Slow down!

Admit where you are emotionally (I need to take a break, I need to regroup, I’m feeling flooded)

3. Show appreciate.

Boy, this can go a long way! Don’t hold back thanking your spouse/partner for even making an attempt to repair. Chances are, if you notice this and say something you both will extend appreciation and grace more often.

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