Respectful Parenting: Janet Lansbury Unruffled
Latest Episodes
When Kids Don't Seem Motivated (to Potty, Crawl, or Create)
What do we do if we know our kids can practice a new skill, and yet they don't or won't? Three families reach out to Janet with concerns about their children's developmental progress. In one case, a 12-month-old doesn't seem interested in crawling, and th
"Earlier Is Better" And Other Child Development Myths (with Rae Pica)
In this encore episode, early childhood education luminary Rae Pica joins Janet to share her expertise about how children really learn and to debunk some common parenting myths that can impede a child’s natural development. Rae has dedicated herself to th
Kids Don't Need Intensive Parenting (and Neither do We!)
The US Surgeon General warns that parents today are feeling increasingly stressed and burnt out. Obviously, this is unhealthy for us and for our children. Several societal factors are thought to contribute to this issue. The good news is that one of them
Is Disrespect a Tantrum in Disguise?
A 7-year-old has been behaving rudely toward his parents by giving them "attitude" and resisting when they give him directions. He says rebellious things, reacts strongly to minor disappointments, and even gets physically aggressive. The mom writes: "I fe
What's Too Strict? What's Not Strict Enough?
Parenting is a tough job and, if you're like many of us, navigating effective discipline is the most challenging part of it. We need clarity! For this reason, many have appreciated Janet's recent episode: "Strict is Loving". You've also had questions—lots
Character Building Lessons You Want Your Kids to Learn
Progress not perfection Be thankful for what you haveIt's okay not to win Embracedifferences... Follow your own path... It's okay to cry... We all have life lessons that we hope to instill in our kids. Many of you shared yours with Janet on Facebook
Triggered Again: Understanding Our Reactions to Kids' Behaviors (With Elisabeth Corey)
Trauma survivor Elisabeth Corey returns to Unruffled to share healing insights she's gained from her intense struggles as a parent of twins. The emotional reactions our kids stir up in us can take us by surprise. Worse, they can keep us feeling stuck re
Strict Is Loving
Janet's "all feelings allowed" approach to parenting is sometimes misconstrued as permissive, passive, lax on boundaries. But as Janet clarifies in this episode, the exact opposite is true! She describes how acquiescing to our kids' whims and demands, giv
Am I Ruining My Child With Respectful Parenting? (A Parent Consultation)
A mom fears that her gentle, respectful approach to her toddler's feelings and behaviors is too permissive and isn't teaching her to treat others with kindness and respect.She says shes been following Janets approach from the beginning, but when her da
Everything Upsets My Spirited Toddler (A Parent Consultation)
Janet consults with a single mom who is alarmed by her toddler's strong reactions and aggressive behavior.She seems easily and almost constantly upsethits, pushes, and bites her mother and brotherand won't be consoled. "When she is crying for a little