A lot of people get into bad relationships from the start while relationships of other people turn bad once individuals start being who they really are. It doesn't matter which. If you allow and accept any ole thing, it's exactly what you'll get. Don't lose your mind, Instead focus on becoming the best you possible. You created the monster, that 's hurting you, (your significant other and yourself). You're the biggest problem in your life. Deal with you! Never allow your raw feelings and emotions to get you into trouble. It's not worth it and your significant other certainly isn't worth it.