All Things Marriage with Dr. Chavonne

Episode 283: How to Get Out of a Negative Cycle with Your Partner
When you and your spouse aren't connecting, everything feels harder.
You might go from small misunderstandings to full-blown silence—or you’re stuck repeating the same argument over and over, never really resolving it.
That’s the disconnection dance or negative cycle—and it’s not just frustrating, it’s exhausting.
In today’s episode, I’m walking you through 5 powerful steps to help you break that cycle.
You’ll learn how to:
- Recognize what’s actually driving your disconnection (it’s not just the surface argument)
- Reflect on your own patterns with compassion and ownership
- Get clear on what you really want—and how to create it
- Self-soothe in moments where your partner isn’t able to meet you
- And take meaningful steps—internally or together—to reconnect without pride or resentment getting in the way
This episode will challenge you. It might even stir something up. But if you’ve been waiting for things to shift—this is your roadmap.
And if you're looking for help and tools to support you in quickly getting out of these negative cycles, I invite you to consider signing up for one of my coaching programs. We can talk more about how I can help in a complimentary consultation call. Learn more here: https://drchavonne.com/work-with-me/