All Things Marriage with Dr. Chavonne

All Things Marriage with Dr. Chavonne


Episode 280: Communication Tips for Anxious-Avoidant Couples

July 08, 2025

In this episode, we’re unpacking exactly what happens when the anxious partner brings up an issue…and the avoidant partner immediately feels overwhelmed, blamed, or like they’re walking into another argument they didn’t ask for.


You’ll learn:

  • What each partner is really thinking underneath the surface
  • Why emotional safety is the missing ingredient that keeps you both stuck in this cycle
  • And what to do instead—whether you’re the one bringing up the issue, or the one on the receiving end of it


We’ll also talk about what it means to be a wounded partner vs. a wounding partner—and how this shift in mindset can change the tone of your conversations and help you actually hear and be heard.


If your marriage feels like one long loop of misunderstanding and miscommunication, and you’re both tired of repeating the same fight with different words…


This episode will give you a new perspective—and the tools to finally begin creating connection, instead of more conflict.


And for more help on creating more productive conversations and using your communication to bring you CLOSER as a couple, I invite you to consider one of my coaching programs. You can learn more here: https://drchavonne.com/work-with-me/