All Things Marriage with Dr. Chavonne

Episode 276: What Sets Off The Anxious-Avoidant Cycle (Part I)
In today’s episode, we’re breaking down the emotional tug-of-war between anxious and avoidant partners—and why it’s so hard to stop, even when you both want things to be better.
You’ll hear the real fears driving this dynamic:
- Why the anxious partner is so afraid of being emotionally abandoned
- Why the avoidant partner is terrified of not being enough
- And how these fears fuel the very behaviors that keep you disconnected
We’re going deeper than just communication tips—this is about the belief systems that live underneath your patterns. The unconscious drivers that have you stuck in criticism, defensiveness, shutdown, and silent suffering.
If you’ve ever thought, “Why do we keep having the same arguments?”
Or felt like, “No matter how hard I try, I still don’t feel close to my partner…”
This episode will help you understand why—and what to do instead.
Because real change happens when you understand what’s really going on inside you… and inside each other.
If you are ready for help growing as an individual AND together as a couple, then I invite you to book a complimentary consultation call to discuss how my coaching approach can help you get there faster: https://drchavonne.com/work-with-me/