Think about what comes to mind when you think of patterns or behaviors. Likely it means doing something repetitive, over and over again, often without much thought given to the action. But when you’re in recovery, you can recognize that certain behaviors and attitudes have gotten you into trouble in the past. You learn in recovery that old behaviors from your addictive past have been destructive and that you can make important changes in your new life in sobriety. Tonight, we talk about Old Behaviors Our generous Recovered Podcast Community allows us to be self supporting and not rely on outside contributions.  If you would like to join us, there are three ways. Episode Sponsorship  We will recognize you by first name only at the top, mid, and end of the episode.  Any amount will qualify. Premium Membership  This is the single most effective way to support the show.  Watch the video in its entirety and learn how to become Premium Sustaining Partners  We have three ways in which you can participate in this 12-step mission We invite you to be a partner is this work. Call Us Now  http://recoveredcast.com/speakpipe email mark@recoveredcast.com So, listeners, join us at The 2020 International Convention of AA in Detroit. If you are coming into town for the convention, the Recovered Podcast wants to meet you! If you would like to get all the information regarding the Recovered Podcast at the 2020 International Convention, just email me and we will get you on our google group. Just email me at mark@recoveredcast.com To get on our 2020 International Convention Google group This google group will be notified with all the Recovered Podcast Plans for the convention and will have all the information about how to find our tailgate party.  Right now, our google group has been provided with maps and general information about Detroit. Email me at mark@recoveredcast.com if you want these kinds of updates. We are reluctant to change. It may be more that we’re afraid of change, so starting something new is impossible. The fact that others tell us that change is beneficial does little to stop the fear of change. Overcoming the fear is a unique and personal process that we have to go through on our own. This does not mean we cannot rely on the advice and encouragement of others. Indeed, it is in listening to stories that we may be motivated to start making important changes in our own life. So, recognizing patterns is first and foremost the initial step that people in recovery need to take. What comes first to mind when you hear the expression “Old Behaviors”? What are some of your old behaviors that were self destructive? When you were new, how did you learn you needed to change? What did you need to change to stay sober? What part of the program helped you identify old behaviors? What part of the program helped you change old behaviors into new ones? What stops you from changing self destructive attitudes? Some examples may be: Stubbornness: needing to always be right People pleasing: at the cost of your own happiness or health Obsessing about perfection Blaming: inability to accept responsibility for your own mistakes Procrastination Inability or refusing to ask for help Fear of taking healthy risks Negative self talk Self guilt and feeling undeserving of good things in life For you, when an old behavior is recognized, what do you do that is healthy for you? What is most likely to trigger old behaviors today? What are your triggers? How do you replace negative habits? Do you think about your old self and feel guilt and remorse? What is stinking thinking? How do you fight these emotions? Have you changed an old behavior into an asset? We Have Calls ______________________________________________________ We asked our listeners about this topic. Now, listeners, If you would like to participate in these weekly surveys, just email me for an invite request. Email me at mark@recoveredcast.com And I will send you an invite to our Recoveredcast Google