Your issues with boundaries come from your past. You may have grown up where boundaries were strict and harsh. This could lead to an inability to express your feelings or to keep everyone at arm’s length. Having no boundaries will lead to you and others being enmeshed. When this happens, your roles are interchangeable and blurred and you will not establish your sense of identity. As you get older, your relationships mirror those of the past and history begins to repeat itself. As you fall into the same patterns, you increase your risk of experiencing depression or anxiety and may fall into drugs and alcohol to help cope. Tonight, we talk about setting boundaries Our generous Recovered Podcast Community allows us to be self supporting and not rely on outside contributions.  If you would like to join us, there are three ways. Episode Sponsorship  We will recognize you by first name only at the top, mid, and end of the episode.  Any amount will qualify. Premium Membership  This is the single most effective way to support the show.  Watch the video in its entirety and learn how to become Premium Sustaining Partners  We have three ways in which you can participate in this 12-step mission We invite you to be a partner is this work. Call Us Now  http://recoveredcast.com/speakpipe email mark@recoveredcast.com So, listeners, join us at The 2020 International Convention of AA in Detroit. If you are coming into town for the convention, the Recovered Podcast wants to meet you! If you would like to get all the information regarding the Recovered Podcast at the 2020 International Convention, just email me and we will get you on our google group. Just email me at mark@recoveredcast.com To get on our 2020 International Convention Google group This google group will be notified with all the Recovered Podcast Plans for the convention and will have all the information about how to find our tailgate party.  Right now, our google group has been provided with maps and general information about Detroit. Email me at mark@recoveredcast.com if you want these kinds of updates. Establishing boundaries in your life is important, especially in recovery. By setting boundaries, you no longer allow others to take advantage of you and you begin to find your voice and learn how to use it. Your communication with others improves as you express your thoughts and feelings. Healthy boundaries lead to healthy relationships with people who have your best interests in mind, support and respect you and are willing to work with you. An added benefit is that you begin to establish your sense of self. First thought? What Are Healthy and Unhealthy Boundaries? For you, what is a healthy boundary? How do you know when a boundary has been crossed? For you, what family of origin enmeshments do you struggle with? For you what are healthy boundaries you have developed in recovery and how do you develop these? How do you know the difference between healthy and unhealthy boundaries ? For you, what are some unhealthy boundaries you have developed before program? Family reach out Sovil media   Here are some possible examples Telling someone else how to think or feel Sacrificing your personal values and beliefs to please someone else Forcing your advice or beliefs on others and pressuring them to follow your advice or think the same Allowing someone else to define you and dictate your actions Taking responsibility for someone else’s feelings For you what are healthy boundaries you have developed in recovery and why? Here are some examples Encouraging sharing feelings and thoughts Honoring your personal values and beliefs even if others may not agree with them Respecting others Taking responsibility for all that you do or say Taking full ownership and responsibility in defining yourself Today, when are you most vulnerable and allow unhealthy boundaries/ How can the program help? Steps Sponsor Sponsee Service work Meetings prayer We Have Calls _______________________________________