Guilt is a beast we all deal with at some point, especially when it comes to mom guilt. It can cause mental health turmoil, but with support it can be beat!

We've all been there, even if we don't want to admit it. Or maybe we don't even realize what it is. Either way, it's something we need to tackle head on!

Katy Huie Harrison- Surviving Guilt

Katy runs the website Undefining Motherhood, an education and advocacy website for women at all stages of child bearing and child rearing process.

Katy has battles guilt in all forms throughout her journey. From food guilt to mom guilt, every stage has brought something.

The number of areas in which we feel mom guilt in endless. In trying to conceive, throughout pregnancy, as we raise our baby, toddler, or older child, as an adult in everything from our size, the food we eat, how we exercise or parenting...the list goes on.

Guilt and fertility

After going through many years of fertility, including multiple treatments of IVF, I finally was successful on IVF round 4. The guilt that I encountered throughout my journey came at me at all angles.

Starting with feeling guilty because I couldn't be as thrilled for others I knew getting pregnant without a few tears of my own, to the guilt I felt when I finally did get pregnant because others I knew had not been successful yet.

Guilt knows no irony. And it never settles. At least not for us moms. Once pregnancy came, the guilt of what I ate and the exercise I did (or couldn't do) took front seat.

Will the food we chose affect the growing baby? What if I workout too hard or too little? It never stops, especially when you've been through fertility to get there.

Food guilt

While you are growing a baby, or simply just eating to fuel your own body, guilt associated with food has been deeply grained into our society.

Both from the online world of what it looks like to have the "perfect figure" to the people we surround ourself. Some of us grew up being told we are too this or that. Or maybe it was the friend circle in high school.

It's a learned process and the more we succumb to it, the deeper those connections become.

When we are pregnant, even though we are growing a baby, many of us feel guilty when indulging in the things our body craves. Even though my doctor told me not to worry too much about it, assured me the baby would take what it needed and my body would do what it needed to do.

I still found my self feeling guilt and questioned if living on Hawaiian rolls and Swiss cheese would cause my unborn baby harm.

Some of us use food as a coping mechanism, Katy being one of those people explained how she associates it with comfort. But then the irony of that comfort is that it's followed by guilt.

How is it possible that the thing we turn to for comfort also causes guilt? And what about those of us like me, that lose our desire for food in times of stress? Should I feel more or less guilty?

Guilt and children

Once we finally get our babies safely into this world, the onset of guilt we feel comes in droves.

From the breastmilk versus formula debate, to homemade baby food, when do you start introducing things like nuts, do you let them get dirty or put them in a bubble, and how much to let go when it comes to healthy food. The struggle is real and the guilt is strong.