PHIL: Do you know that feeling of satisfaction that comes from working with someone on a project? It might be sweeping leaves or planning an event. Perhaps it’s cooking together or being on a sports t

PHIL: You’ve heard over and over how bad lying is in your relationship, but telling the truth can be hard. Society operates with social graces, inhibitions and taboos. Two big ones are money and sex:

The other night we were just about to shut the lights out and go to sleep when Maude remembered that it was the night the Geminid meteor shower was at its peak. Phil looked out the window and immediately saw … It’s Important to Include Spontaneity In ...

We were contacted this week by a reader asking about the difference between an argument and a disagreement because the distinction was causing confusion between her, her husband and their adult daughter. These words mean different things to different p...

PHIL: I often read aloud after we retire at night, and we’ve been reading one of our favorites for the second time: “Ten Poems to Set You Free.” Last night we read “Have You Ever Tried to Enter the Long … There Is Nowhere To Be But Here Read More »

Each of us has an inner voice that resonates with what is true. That spirit of truth tells you that love is real. And yet that very reality is being assailed. This disturbing trend has had serious repercussions. It underlies … Choose Love, Not Fear,

Peace is a distinct state of its own. It sometimes gets framed as an absence, an absence of conflict, or even of life itself – “Rest in Peace” – but it is far more useful to see it as a … How to Make Relationship Peace Your Guide for Social Peace Read...

MAUDE: The cornerstone of peaceful conflict-free relating is the practice of mutuality: the certainty that it is possible to find mutual solutions and the act of creating them. This requires the ability to search beyond differences to find the matching...

In the last weeks, we’ve written about individuality, core values and total acceptance, and the obvious next question is how to deal with differences. We’ve looked closely at how we do this without conflict and have come to call this … How to Deal Wit...

We often describe something we call total acceptance, but what do we actually mean by that term? Well, first let’s discuss what we don’t mean. We don’t mean that you should accept abuse or bullying or attempts at dominance.