PHIL: In one relationship, I felt that sex created intimacy, but my partner needed intimacy to precede sex. (This is what programmers call the bootstrap problem, from the expression “pull yourself up by your own bootstraps.” How do you read the first program into a computer when it needs a program in the computer to do the reading?)
In another relationship, my partner traveled often, and on return, there was a hesitancy between us until we became used to being with each other again.Click here to read more...