If you find yourself feeling suddenly overwhelmed when you are experiencing conflict with your spouse, you are experiencing what John Gottman calls flooding. This episode of the podcast talks about how to recognize flooding, and how to calm down when you experience it.

When you are flooded, the first step in calming down is recognizing when you are flooded so that you can give yourself a break from the situation. You can come back to the conversation when you have calmed down and are thinking more clearly.

This episode also includes helpful techniques to help you stop feeling flooded and a word of advice for spouses whose partner is experiencing flooding.