The Marriage Podcast for Smart People

The Marriage Podcast for Smart People


Secure Attachment in Marriage

November 06, 2019

Our attachment style defines how we relate to others. It affects how we relate to others, how we feel about ourselves, and how well we are able to be in touch with our own emotions.

Couples with a secure attachment style feel safe in their relationship. They know that they can share their joys and sorrows with each other without fearing a negative response such as rejection.

If your spouse has an anxious or avoidant attachment style, they may struggle to communicate and connect with you. But by learning research-based techniques like partner buffering, you can learn to communicate with your spouse in a way that lets them know that they are safe and secure in their relationship with you. In doing so, you can help them develop a secure attachment by relieving their fears and anxieties.