If you find yourself struggling with wanting to be close to your spouse, but also pushing them away, you may have a disorganized attachment style. You may find that you feel conflicted between a strong desire to be close to your spouse and a fear of becoming reliant on them

The way you learned to relate to your parents is typically the way you relate to your spouse, but you can learn to relate to your spouse in a healthy way. This attachment style can be confusing for your spouse, and it can be really helpful for them to understand where it’s coming from.

If you’re willing to take a look at how your attachment style developed, you can learn how to create a secure attachment with your spouse so that you can have a loving, secure connection to them