For many performers, the voice can feel like a mystery. You practice the techniques, you know the music, but a persistent block, chronic tension, or crippling stage fright holds you back from your true potential. What if the root of that struggle isn’t in your technique, but in your history?

The body keeps a score of our experiences, and for a singer, whose very instrument is their body, the impact of past trauma can be profound. Unresolved trauma can manifest as physical “body armoring,” a deep sense of being unsafe on stage, and a destructive inner critic.

To explore this powerful connection, Therapevo’s Caleb Simonyi-Gindele sat down with our colleague Ron de Jager. Ron lives at the unique intersection of world-class performance and clinical counselling. As a Doctor of Musical Arts, an accomplished vocalist, and a specialist therapist, he offers a unique and compassionate perspective on what it takes to heal the instrument and set your voice free.

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Here is a polished transcript of their conversation.

Why is a singer’s experience of trauma so profoundly different?

Caleb: For our listeners, can you start by explaining one of the powerful statements from your research: “A singer’s body is his or her instrument.” Why does that make a singer’s experience of trauma so profoundly different?

Ron: I started as a pianist, so my instrument was here in front of me. It was me and the instrument, and the audience was there. Then all of a sudden, you take that away and it’s just me. That becomes a much more vulnerable situation.

When you’re vulnerable, more things will start to show up. We might be a little bit naive in thinking that we’ve got it masked and covered very well, but sometimes the audience is pretty perceptive. No matter our best job at covering it, our body will still show certain things. As a singing teacher, I started to become aware of those things, like, “Where is that showing up, why is it showing up, and what is it indicative of?” It’s a symptom of something rather than just being the problem.

Just something like getting nervous—if you get a little nervous when you’re speaking, the voice can start to quiver, you don’t get enough breath underneath it, and all of a sudden you squeak and crack. That body stuff might show up more for singers than other kinds of musicians because it’s just you and your voice out there.

How can past trauma manifest in a singer’s performance?

Caleb: You’ve said that trauma affects the entire organism—physical, mental, social, and spiritual. Can you give us an example of how a past trauma, like childhood sexual abuse, might manifest in a singer’s voice or performance in a way that most of us would probably not even recognize?

Ron: For sure. Especially if it’s undealt with, it can show up physically in different ways. Some things that I’ve noticed with singers is locking through the lower abdominal areas, through the solar plexus, and right into the pelvis. It can be in the knees and the buttocks as well. All those areas will just lock and get tense. It can be jaw or tongue tension as well. You can see it sometimes if the individual is really trying to get sound out without releasing; you can see trembling in the lower abdominal area.

Jaw tension is often a position of “we’re not going to let anybody in.” In a place where you’re trying to express very openly and freely, when you’re not letting people in, people can see something’s going on there. If the tongue is really tense, it will pull the larynx high, which means you’re going to have to work extra hard. Imagine if we’ve got tension here, and here, and we’re trying to make a free sound—how much that’s going to hold the singer back, not just in their sound, but in their storytelling. You’re working against all these roadblocks.

How can singing be both healing and re-traumatizing?

Caleb: Many people see singing as a joyful and expressive act. How does unresolved trauma create a paradox where the very act of singing can be both a source of potential healing and, simultaneously, a source of re-traumatization?

Ron: Music is such an amazing healer, and we can never underestimate that. From a singer’s standpoint, the fact that we have to inhale from a really deep place and then release breath—that breathing itself is cathartic. But then feeling that all of a sudden we can make sounds, that we actually have a voice and that voice matters.

Often with abuse, the voice is squelched, physically or psychologically. If there was ever a time when the individual felt that their voice didn’t matter, all of a sudden it starts to matter. You have something worth saying. And you don’t have to just say it with words; you can say it with music added to it, because there’s so much more behind it.

At the same time, it can be retraumatizing. I never really thought about this until I was working with singers more and I would ask them to breathe low. You’d think, “Why can’t they let go? Just breathe.” But especially if there’s been childhood sexual abuse, we’re asking them to release the very part of their body where they were violated. There’s no wonder they can’t. So this is a much more gentle process, and you have to be patient. It’s about finding that space that’s safe to let go. That part can be incredibly healing—letting go of the violation as well while you’re breathing.

What is “body armoring” and what are the signs?

Caleb: You use the term “body armoring.” In your work with singers, what are the first things you look for that tell you that their technical struggle is possibly more rooted in trauma rather than a lack of training?

Ron: That’s a great question. I think it’s probably the persistence of whatever technical thing that we’re trying to overcome, that there’s just no release in it. When you listen to a singer, some things you watch for are physical things. Is there actual holding on? Is there tension? How about the release of breath? Can they actually just sigh and make it sound consistent?

Then the actual sound can tell you a fair amount. The rate of vibrato, which is just a natural wave if the voice is free. If that vibrato is typically really fast, we call that a tremolo. If it gets really wide, we call that a wobble. That can be from a lack of proper breath movement or hypertension through here. The sound can tell you a lot. And lastly, how they interpret a piece. Are there certain pieces that are traumatic for them that they just can’t connect with?Maybe it’s too close to home for them to connect with where they’re at in their journey.

How does attachment history make the stage feel unsafe?

Caleb: Performers often seek validation from an audience. How might a history of insecure attachment, which so often stems from childhood trauma, amplify that need for approval and turn the stage into a place that feels very unsafe?

Ron: If there’s been a time when an attachment has been broken, especially between primary caregivers like a father or mother, it definitely transfers over into, “We want to be accepted and we want to be good enough.” Especially if a parent expected more of a child, and what they did was never good enough. No matter how hard the child strove, they could never reach that full approval.

If we translate that into going in front of an audience, it’s almost like the performer can put the burden of the response on the audience before they’ve even performed. “I know that they’re not going to like me because my technique isn’t up to snuff, and Sally Jane, who just sang before me, is a much stronger singer. They’re going to like her better.” All those thoughts are racing through someone’s head. That’s a huge burden to carry. And then to say, “I’ve got this incredible message I want to share with you,” and yet it’s hampered by all this going on in the mind.

It’s just the hamster wheel. It’s exhausting. So working through where that lack of validation started and how is it different now? And taking that burden off the audience. What if we actually allow them to just respond however they’re going to respond? It’s about trusting the process more than trying to exert so much control over it.

Can trauma cause a literal or psychological loss of voice?

Caleb: You wrote, “When the silenced voice is that of a singer, issues of both childhood sexual abuse and singing are compounded.” Can you unpack that a little bit? Are we talking about a literal loss of vocal function, a psychological block, or both?

Ron: It can be both. There’s something called Muscle Tension Dysphonia, which can come from a variety of things, and one of them is trauma. I have worked with singers who have experienced trauma and within a few days, lost their voice because something traumatic happened. The muscles through here get really tight. So it can be psychological that affects the physical, for sure.

Another one is called Mutational Falsetto or Puberphonia. That can happen with young men when they’re going through puberty. It just means the voice doesn’t change. Typically the voice will drop an octave, but with Puberphonia, they’ll go right through it and the voice won’t drop.Those are sometimes indicative of something traumatic that’s happened where the young man just can’t get through into that lower voice.

How can a teacher create safety and avoid triggering a student?

Caleb: It was fascinating to read that even specific pedagogical exercises can be triggering for a singer. When a singer works with you, how do you create that sense of safety that allows them to explore their voice without that fear of being re-traumatized?

Ron: I just discovered this more and more into my years of teaching, when I started to become more sensitive towards things that could possibly be triggering. For example, alignment and breathing are the basics of singing. I would get students to stand against a wall to line their body up and feel their shoulders opening back. Some of those positions can be a little bit triggering. If I open my chest up wide, it’s a very open, vulnerable position. You need to be really sensitive to what you’re asking.

Next is breathing. If they’re having a lot of body armoring, especially in the lower region, you find creative ways. Sometimes we can sit on the edge of a chair and bend forward to feel what’s happening. Sometimes that position might not be the best. Sometimes we’ll hang over to connect—that can be very triggering for somebody.And also just being aware of your position in the room so that they’re in no way feeling uncomfortable. It’s about being incredibly sensitive and creating a space where, if an exercise isn’t easy for them, you can be more creative and try something else.

What does the beginning of the therapeutic journey look like for a performer?

Caleb: Imagine a professional singer comes to you feeling stuck. Maybe they’ve lost their upper range or are battling crippling performance anxiety. What does the beginning of that journey with you look like, and how do you build that foundation of trust?

Ron: I think just creating a space where it’s okay for them to make ugly sounds. Whatever’s going on—”I lost my upper range,” “I push when I get to my…”—those types of things. It’s, “You know what, that’s okay. There are many who have gone before you.” Just creating that space where you just don’t have to be perfect. There is no perfect singer.

I like to say, “Let’s just make some ugly sounds and see what’s going on.” Just freely going on a discovery adventure together, like, “Let’s see what we find!” The permission to not have it all together opens up space for curiosity, which opens up space for new learning, discovery, and healing. It’s a free space. Let’s just go find what we’re going to find, and it’s okay to find whatever. Let’s look at this together.

Can you share an anonymized story of transformation?

Caleb: The goal, of course, is healing and liberation in a person’s voice and body. Could you share an anonymized story of transformation? A client who came with a specific block and what they were able to achieve after working through the underlying trauma?

Ron: Yeah, for sure. There’s one story especially that comes to mind, and this individual has given me her permission to tell her story. A young lady came early on in my career as a professor, and I’m incredibly grateful for what she taught me. She came to my studio and she was a larger-bodied young lady who looked like she should have a big, huge sound. And she was very musical, had sung for quite a while.

We were working in a lesson, and she had this thin, high sound, which is kind of indicative of the larynx being pretty high. We were getting nowhere. Finally, one day we just stopped and I said, “Why don’t you look in the mirror and just say, ‘I’m beautiful.'” 51She looked and said, “I’m beautiful,” and I said, “Maybe we could try that with a little bit more believing behind it.”

And then she broke down and started to explain the trauma that had happened in her life. I wasn’t a counselor at the time, but we recommended that she go and talk to somebody. She did, and she started working through this. She lost a significant amount of weight, which actually really affected her voice. It’s almost like she lost that voice and we had to start rebuilding from the bottom up. She was singing soprano and she turned into this beautiful, big mezzo voice. She went on to her bachelor’s and master’s in singing and has taught for quite a while. It’s just amazing to see that freedom in her story, in her person, and in her singing.

 

What is one first step a performer can take toward healing?

Caleb: For that performer listening right now and thinking, “This is me,” what is one thing you’d encourage them to do today, after this show ends, to start their journey towards reclaiming their voice?

Ron: I just think it’s so important that you talk to somebody. Just to start that journey. In the story of this young lady, she felt safe enough to just say, “Here’s my story.” So just starting to verbalize part of that to anybody who can start walking alongside you. Because stuffing it down just never works. It’s going to manifest itself in some way.

This whole idea that “the body keeps the score”—it really does, and it will start to show up. When singers have trauma and they haven’t ever talked about it, or they’re stuffing it down hoping no one notices, it’s going to show up somewhere. So just that initial bit of talking to anybody who can get you on a path towards healing is just so amazing. And it takes a lot of courage. That first step, it’s the good old “name it to tame it.” There’s something so powerful about stating your truth and sharing your story.

 

Your Healing Journey

This conversation highlights a profound truth: the path to a free and authentic voice is often intertwined with the path of personal healing. Recognizing that a vocal block or performance anxiety may be a message from your past is a courageous first step. You don’t have to navigate this journey alone.

If this story resonates with you and you’re ready to explore what healing could look like, our team of specialized, compassionate therapists is here to help.

• Take the first step: Book a free, confidential 20-minute consultation with our intake team to find the right therapist for you.
• Connect with Ron: You can learn more about Ron de Jager and his specialized work with performers on his bio page.