Fostering gratitude in our boys can help them navigate the inevitable ups and downs of life.

And despite what you may think, it is possible to foster an attitude of gratitude in apparently self-centered boys.

Science has shown a strong link between kids’ developmental stages and gratitude. As children grow, they gradually learn that they are not the center of the universe, and they gradually — very gradually — learn that they must consider others’ feelings, desires, and needs as well. So, older teenagers are much more capable of feeling and expressing gratitude than younger children. In fact, according to a Harvard Health article, “gratitude is an attainment associated with emotional maturity.”

In other words, your 7-year-old son is not supposed to be great at gratitude. He’s still developing the socioemotional skills that will allow him to perceive and appreciate all that others do for him.

That said, there’s a lot you can do to nurture the development of gratitude in your sons.

• The limits of role-modeling in teaching gratitude
• How emotional development affects gratitude
• Why boys w ADHD may struggle with gratitude
• Developmentally appropriate expectations
• Gratitude’s benefits
• Creating a culture of service and volunteering
• Drawing kids’ attention to the many ways others hep them
• How wonder & awe create appreciation
• Concrete steps you can take to teach boys gratitude
• How keeping a gratitude journal can help combat anxiety and depression

Teaching Boys Social Skills — ON BOYS episode featuring ADHD expert Ryan Wexelblatt

Parenting Boys with Maggie Dent (Part 1) — ON BOYS episode featuring Australia’s “boy champion”

In Praise of Gratitude — Harvard Health article

Seven Ways to Foster Gratitude in Kids — Greater Good magazine article

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