Not Your Average Financial Podcast™

Not Your Average Financial Podcast™


Episode 296: [The Survivor’s Checklist] What To Do When Your Loved One Passes

May 05, 2023

In this episode, we ask:


  • Who needs to hear this?
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  • What about unclaimed life insurance funds?
  • What about going into “full detective mode”?
  • How might you search?
  • What about the deceased’s own paperwork?
  • What about the deceased’s recent tax returns?
  • What about the deceased’s transaction history?
  • Are you the named beneficiary?
  • Can you call the insurance company to find out if you are a beneficiary?
  • What about the National Association of Insurance Commissioner’s (NAIC) life insurance policy locator service tool?
  • What about an example?
  • Is there a contingent beneficiary?
  • What happens if no beneficiary can be found?
  • What happens if the death benefit goes to the deceased’s estate?
  • Does the federal government have a website for this?
  • Can you find it on your own?
  • What about the unclaimed property office?
  • What happens if you move to another state?
  • What about unclaimed wages?
  • What about VA benefits?
  • What about unclaimed insurance funds?
  • What about the IRS and the federal tax refund?
  • What about the state tax refund?
  • What about treasuryhunt.gov for savings bonds?
  • What about SEC claims on stocks and brokerage funds?
  • What about contacting the brokerage fund directly to find an account left in your name?
  • What can you do to broach the topic?
  • When would be a good time to have a 30-minute conversation?
  • How could this be a positive experience for everyone?
  • Do you know about your parent’s life insurance policy or policies?
  • Do they have medical care benefits on these policies?
  • What if the worst has just happened?
  • Would you like to have the Survivor’s Checklist?
  • What needs to be done?
  • What do you need to do in the first few days?
  • What about the certified death certificate copies?
  • What about the deceased’s files and safety deposit boxes?
  • Is burial insurance or final expense insurance in place?
  • Has your loved one selected a cemetery location or plot in advance?
  • What about contacting the funeral home?
  • Should you assign the death benefit to the funeral home?
  • Should the death benefit get paid directly to you?
  • Should the death benefit be paid as a lump sum or as ongoing payments?
  • What should you do within the first week of someone’s passing?
  • What about the Social Security Administration?
  • What about Veteran’s Affairs?
  • What about the Department of Health Services (if they were receiving Medicaid)?
  • What about the insurance companies?
  • Do you need to contact the life insurer?
  • Do you need to contact the medical insurer?
  • Do you need to contact the disability insurer?
  • Do you need to contact the homeowners insurer?
  • Do you need to contact the auto insurer?
  • How long does it take for a life insurance death benefit to be paid out?
  • What do you do with the certified death certificate?
  • What about the liquidity of the life insurance company?
  • What happens with lump sums at a bank?
  • Who can easily withdraw $1M from a bank account? Are banks liquid?
  • How many days does it take to get a large withdrawal from the bank?
  • Are bankers allowed to ask you questions about why you want your own deposits back?
  • What about unused life insurance premium?
  • What about the retirement account plans (401(k), IRAs, Pensions, and other benefits still due to them)?
  • What about cancelling recurring bills?
  • What about closing down online and social media accounts?
  • What about establishing an I Love You folder with passwords?
  • What about bank accounts and online accounts?
  • What about the probate process?
  • Does your loved one have a will or trust (who is the trustee?)?
  • What about issuing bond?
  • What about notifying creditors that your loved one has passed?
  • What about taking an inventory of all assets and liabilities?
  • What about asking the court for a final distribution of the estate to be paid out to beneficiaries?
  • What if the loved one had a small or no estate?
  • Is there agreement among surviving relatives?
  • How can you collaborate with relatives in a constructive way?
  • What about the overwhelm?
  • What about the grief?
  • How might you love your family to make this process so much easier?
  • What is an I Love You folder?
  • What are the documents you should leave?
    • What about the sources of all of your income?
    • Where are your assets held? (401(k)s, IRAs, Pensions, Social Security, Medicare, Life Insurance premiums, etc.)
      • Company
      • Account Numbers
      • Listed Beneficiaries
      • Bank accounts and numbers
      • Phone numbers or addresses of companies

    • What online accounts, social media accounts and other usernames and passwords will your loved ones need to access upon your death?
    • What do you want your funeral to be like exactly?
    • What items do you want to leave to specific people?
    • What would you write in a letter to your closest loved ones? (Would you like a hand writing this letter? Hop on our calendar and select a time.)

  • What can you do this week to make sure your family is better off?