Mud to Lotus

Mud to Lotus

Episode #003 Interview with Alica Forneret, Mother’s Day, The Lead Up, The Dead Mom’s Club… It’s Ok to not be Ok

May 11, 2018

Mother’s Day… The lead up to this day when you are a Motherless Daughter can be Excruciating. The commercials, advertisement for flowers and gifts it seems that everywhere you turn there is a constant reminder of the loss of our Mother.  Alica Forneret calls it the Dead Mom’s Club she created pins and had them uniquely designed for other Motherless daughters to wear as a reminder of the club you find yourself in when you have lost your Mom. The artist Alica worked with is from Australia and the company that printed the pins is from Thunder Bay(where Alica’s mom grew up).  It’s a club you didn’t sign up for but when you enter this club there is a sisterhood that is deep and wide.    Alica is a creative writer, editor and she explores death, dying and grief through storytelling.
Mud to Lotus Podcast
On Today’s episode, Angela interviews Alica forneret. Alica is a creative exploring grief, death and dying through story telling. She is also the founder of the Dead Moms Club. Alica, at the age of 27, lost her mom in 2016. In this episode, Alica discusses her Mom’s story, the Dead Moms Club, her experience with grief, the grieving process and Mother’s Day. Alica’s mom was raised in Canada then moved to California. She passed in October 2016. Alica has been grieving her mother’s death for two years now.
Key Topics

* The Dead Moms Club
* Emotions around Mother’s Day
* Alica’s mud to lotus moment
* The anticipation is the worst
* Story of how her mother’s passing
* Travel heals trauma
* You have to feel it
* Life before Mother’s loss and life after
* Overwhelming gratitude
* You don’t need the words or condolences
* How writing has helped Alica through this process
* Vulnerability and bravery
* Importance of sharing the experience you don’t want to talk about
* The place you don’t want to go is the place you need to go
* Knowing what to say or do
* Knowing what not to say
* Dead Mom’s Club pins
* Book recommendations
* It’s okay not to be okay

Connect with Alica:
Angela True is a writer, speaker, coach and counselor in training. Through narrative therapy, coaching and walking with survivors, Angela counsels others on grief, loss, trauma and resilience. As a survivor of gun violence, Angela created Mud to Lotus as a way to talk with people about how they crawled out of the darkest day of their life. You can find Angela at and contact her at Angela also provides 20-minute free consultations. To schedule, please visit
Resource Recommendations:

It’s ok that you’re not ok – Megan Devine
Dead Moms Club – Kate Spencer
Someone you love is gone – Gurjinder Basran
Bloodroot: Tracing the Untelling of Motherloss
Motherless Daughters: The Legacy of Loss