This episode was recorded live at Ash Cigars in Kansas City, Missouri with a group of local singles.In this episode, we discuss:Cigar Smoking v Cigarette Smoking - is there a difference?  (We say YES!)What are single people looking for after 40? I think people are looking for different things at different parts of their journey...excitement, sex, fun, an escape, friendship, to build a network, OR a sense of comfort, security, avoidance of being alone.How do you hit on someone in public but not offend or seem creepy? I think it's bullshit that we have to overthink this. I think we should feel confident to walk up to someone and say something flattering or say something funny and just see where it goes.Why do men think we want dick pics turned into a fun discussion between my male friend & I about sexualizing the initial flirtation stage of online dating.How do I balance my career, parenting, podcasting/writing, and dating... I prioritize & dating is at the bottom of the list. This topic morphed into a discussion of how my podcast is affecting my dating life.How do you kindly decline a date or second date? A friend of mine reminded us that it's ok to meet awesome people and it not be a match.Do men or women really want the truth when their date feels catfished or deceived or that they've mischaracterized themselves?We discuss talking with/dating multiple people at the same time.First date ideas/opinions on where to go and how much time and money to invest.I had so much fun having these conversations with my friends.  I hope you enjoyed listening!Support the show (https://www.buymeacoffee.com/manshopping)