In this episode of the Manlihood Mancast, Josh Hatcher tells us 5 relationships tips to save you a world of heartache.
Quick relationship tips that will save you a world of heartache.

1. She is not your whole world. 
I know we like to say that because it sounds poetic, and it kind of feels like it. But don't let her be your whole world. Make sure you have some good friends, and that you MAINTAIN those friendships (particularly with other men who build you up). Make sure you have some things that you can do without her. If you wrap your whole identity around her, you're going to be in trouble if you encounter any problems.
2. You will have problems. 
You're either committed to work through them, or you are not. Make up your mind on the matter now.
3. Each of you is sovereign 
Even though there is certainly an element of "submission" to each other involved in marriage - she submits to you - you lay down your life for her (just read ephesians) -- it's especially important to understand that each of you is sovereign. She has a right to her feelings and frustrations, as much as you do. You can't get butthurt if she sees things from a different perspective, or if she prefers miracle whip to mayo. (I know - that's probably a dealbreaker) Recognizing and acknowledging her sovereignty, as well as your own will allow you both to understand your value.
4. She doesn't owe you anything. 
You bought her dinner? She doesn't have to sleep with you. You went to work for 16 hours? She doesn't OWE you clean dishes. YES. It's helpful for you to have arrangements and clear expectations of each other. But don't think for a minute that love is transactional. You can't purchase or earn affection. No one is indebted to give love to the other. Love is given as a free gift, or it's not love at all.
5. You teach people how you want them to treat you.
If you tolerate disrespect, and if you give disrespect, you'll get disrespect. You must set clear expectations of the behavior and communication you want to receive from them, and patiently correct them when they deliver something different. 
Complaining, insults, intentionally hurtful words create a spiraling effect. One of you offers them up, the other retaliates.
Don't expect her to show respect if you don't. And if she doesn't - rather than retaliate- calmly correct it and get to the root of why she's feeling that way. Do it humbly. You very well might be the root of it. You don't have to tolerate verbally abusive and hurtful language. But if there are patterns established, it will take patience to change those patterns.
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