Jody Moore is a mother, speaker, Master Certified Life Coach and the owner of Jody Moore Coaching where she helps women improve their self-concept, live from empowering emotions and accomplish their goals. She has a multiple-7-figure coaching practice where she works with her clients online, teaching classes and hosting live calls, supplemented with live events. She has four children ages 4 to 13 and resides with them and her husband in Spokane, Washington. Prior to founding her coaching practice, Jody earned her Bachelor’s degree from Utah State University and a Master’s Degree at the University of Phoenix where she worked for many years as a sales trainer and leadership coach. Highlights 4:55 Life as we expected it this past year did not happen and this has especially affected the youth Tools to use with youth: #1 5:45 Normalize feeling unhappy * Give our kids permission to feel something that isn't happy * This is a normal part of being a human and nothing has gone wrong * 8:15 Kelly McGonigal study on stress #2 11:30 Focus more on thoughts and less on actions when speaking with the youth * Our thoughts are different than God's thoughts * We need to start by choosing our thoughts intentionally * Agency is also the ability to choose how/what to think and this is a skill youth can learn #3 16:30 Teach the youth how to feel their feelings * Different approaches to emotion: resisting, avoiding, or feeling * The "easy" button * Relaxing into emotion instead of resisting * Opposition in all things: we are not supposed to feel happy all the time #4 24:00 Seek to minimize shame * Shame is natural but toxic * The message of shame can easily slip in, even when we don't mean for it to * Empathy is the antidote to shame * Shame thrives in hiding * Example of her experience with a bishop that steered her away from shame #5 29:15 Stop labeling everything as anxiety * Sometimes it is anxiety, but sometimes it's just labeling negative emotion and thinking it needs to be fixed * The better we become at accurately labeling our negative emotion, the better our chances at learning how to manage them 32:45 We have to get better at doing these things ourselves; learning to manage our own thoughts will help us help others better 36:00 Slowing down and making space for feeling emotions; "this is the part where I feel ____" 39:10 Learning how God thinks so we can become more like Him; asking the question, "What would Jesus think?" 41:30 Stress is a very useful thing and we can learn to handle it 42:40 Taking a deep breath and relaxing into the emotion 43:30 Her daughter's experience getting shots at the doctor: it's okay to just cry 44:30 Shame and guilt * Shame is the feeling of guilt gone wild when the first feelings are not addressed * Most people have learned to go straight to shame * Guilt is information 48:30 Increasing our emotional vocabulary so we can have more leverage over the emotion 51:20 Addressing the thoughts and feelings first, and then the behavior 54:00 Final advice to leaders: embrace that you will do an amazing job and also not such a great job Links JodyMoore.com The Upside of Stress, by Kelly McGonigal