What does it say about you if you fully step into your truth, you speak it, you share it?   In this episode, Jen deep dives into how we can be in the shadow of our essential goodness. She shares how releasing attachment to all identities and all roles, the attachment to your essential goodness, to be willing to let go and let yourself be seen in your beliefs is the way through it.     Key Notes: What we do when we start to make a lot of things about ourselves and our attachment to how people see us How the ego makes us think we’re more important than we are by making everything about us and our need to be seen in our essential goodness What’s underneath the need to be seen in your essential goodness?     Show Notes: (1:10) Jen shares what we are going to talk about this week (2:39) How we can get attached to our identity by the things that we do well and we do right and what that can do to us (5:20) How you should be grounded in your own truth to have a healthy boundary with discernment and not judgement (6:00) How every exchange of energy is a two-part system; it’s a reflection for the person on the other side as much as it is for you (7:16) Jen shares what she learned from her experience of breaking up with a friend this year (8:50) How the next layer of personal growth is being able to speak with assertiveness and discernment from a place of truth (9:50) If you have no fear of judgment, it gives you the ability to speak your truth from a healthy place (10:25) Jen talks about where the need to be seen in essential goodness comes from (11:31) How we give what we need, we start putting other people’s needs In front of ours because we want to be seen our goodness; this is the shadow     Quotes: (4:44) We continue to seek to understand the other point of view. (5:05) Be willing to be the person in the room that’s learning something because in those moments that’s when we learn the most (09:03) Too much truth is harsh and too much compassion is enabling (9:49) If you have no fear of judgment, it’s liberation. It’s freedom.