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Ep. 160: Fixing Your Relationship–With or Without Your Partner Participating with Stacey Martino

December 11, 2019

Forget about dragging your spouse to therapy. Stacey Martino saved her marriage 20 years ago, and now she tells the real, raw truth about how you can make change, without coercing your partner.
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EPISODE HIGHLIGHTS WITH STACEY MARTINO:

* [03:37] “I don’t know how to do this.” Stacey Martino, nicknamed “Ice Princess,” had a wake-up call about her relationship when her husband almost left her. So, she dove in to find tools to make it work – and her advice will surprise you.
* [07:18] One person can change the relationship. We’re trained to make relationships “fair” and 50/50. But is that hurting our relationship’s potential? Check if you might be in what Stacey calls “a demand relationship,” and what your (and your partner’s) triggers might be.
* [14:40] A blueprint guide to love. There’s a difference between masculine and feminine energies, and types of people within – and your relationship can get caught in the crosshairs.
* [15:53] Does couple’s counseling work? Stacey Martino has seen a lot of couples trying to work on their marriage and relationship; see what she thinks about couple’s therapy and its effects.
* [18:30] Relationships are like a plant (or a bank account). Stacey and Robyn finish the metaphors, and give some tips on how to work within them.
* [23:32] The number one reason people have relationship problems: You’d be surprised; what you think the reason might be is actually the symptom.
* [26:24] Is it possible to have white-hot passion 20 years into a marriage? (and beyond). Stacey says, “Oh hell yes. Oh my gosh, yes, yes, yes, yes, yes.” It’s a skill set, and you can learn it.
* [34:20] Does every marriage have to last forever? In the wrong mindset and without a toolbox or skill set, marriage has a tough time thriving. Working beyond a marriage into happiness is, however, a possibility – if you learn the tools.
* [36:35] It’s not fair if I have to do all the work. Stacey Martino gives a beautiful, brilliant answer to that statement… including, life isn’t fair, and your desire to seek fairness is actually hurting you more than the results you could be getting.

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