Bill Eddy is the Training Director and
Co-Founder of the High Conflict Institute, an award-winning consultancy and
training firm for professionals looking to better understand and manage high
conflict personalities in the workplace. He is the developer of the High
Conflict Personality (HCP) Theory and is recognized as an international expert
on managing disputes involving people with personality disorders. Bill is an
attorney, a certified Family Law Specialist, and San Diego’s Senior Family
Mediator at the National Conflict Resolution Center. He is the author of
several articles and multiple books including High Conflict People in Legal Disputes, SPLITTING: Protecting Yourself While Divorcing Someone with Borderline
or Narcissistic Personality Disorder, 5
Types of People Who Can Ruin Your Life, and Don’t Alienate the Kids.

Bill joins me today to discuss the five types
of toxic personalities that can ruin your life. We discuss how we can deal with
high conflict personality types, the difference between personality disorders
and people with HCP, and how someone can have a high conflict personality
without having a personality disorder. We discuss what a “target of blame” is
and how to avoid becoming a target. We discuss what it means to be a negative
advocate and how it can encourage others to engage in disputes. We also discuss
how your emotions can be contagious and how we can choose to use those
contagious emotions positively or negatively as well as the benefits of waiting
at least a year before tying the knot and marrying your partner.

“Just like alcoholics are part of us, people with high conflict personalities are part of us and we have to learn how to manage them differently – but not reject them.” – Bill Eddy

This week on The School for Good Living Podcast:

• Why Bill believes the meaning of life is to
  help others
• Why we need to constantly reflect on the type
  of personality we possess and the impact we have on others
• Why Bill decided to write a book on the 5
  types of high conflict personalities
• Why you shouldn’t tell someone that they have
  a high conflict personality
• What is a ‘target of blame’ and why authority
  figures and the people we’re closest to are often the biggest targets
• The difference between high conflict
  personalities and people with personality disorders
• Why Bill believes people with high conflict
  personalities are becoming more prevalent in our society
• What negative advocates are and how they
  impact the people around them
• How negative advocacy can often be a learned
  behavior
• Comparing the five types of high conflict
  personalities
• Conflict management strategies when dealing
  with people with HCP
• How your emotions can be contagious and
  understanding unseen emotions
• The impact of positive self-talk and positive
  mental imaging techniques
• How to handle power-struggle scenarios
• What the 1-Year Guideline is and why he
  recommends couples to date for a full year before getting married
• Why he believes the percentage of people with
  personality disorders and HCP are on the rise
• Can people with HCP and personality disorders
  change their personality and behavior
• Why people with antisocial personality
  disorder are the least likely to change

Resources Mentioned:

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• The Big Book of Borderline Personality Disorder (Bpd Wellness) by Shehrina Rooney

Connect
with Bill Eddy:

• High Conflict Institute
• Facebook
• LinkedIn
• Twitter
• YouTube
• Book: 5 Types of People Who Can Ruin Your Life: Identifying and Dealing with Narcissists, Sociopaths, and Other High-Conflict Personalities

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